Educate in feelings
By Javier Urra Psychologist and first Child Advocate
We are trained in the learning of knowledge, but in what more is it necessary to educate? "Knowledge begins with sensitivity" (Eliot). It is necessary to educate in the feelings, in the appreciation of their richness, in knowing how to express one's own, in grasping and understanding those of others. In learning to lead one's life, and manage the relationships that are maintained with others.
Children should know how to approach others to consult or to deny their requests. Expressing emotions and needs, facilitate psychic balance. Intelligence is a global concept, cognitively and affectively. ¿How many people do we see who are outstanding professionally, but emotionally unbalanced? Your life fails.
Socialization is the process by which the individual personality is born and developed. Socialization implies immersion in culture, control of impulses, experience of oneself, development of affectivity and achievement motivation. It must facilitate a "communicative competence" and a "live with".
The attitude and philosophy must be: know yourself and put yourself in the place of the other, that is, to delve into introspection and socialization. In the end, we are what the education received and the subsequent self-education has made of us, reflect what mirror, love or villainy that has been put before us.
The good character of the child, their positive attitudes, their self-control will depend on the favorable climate in the home, the correct modeling, the balanced use of control and the autonomy of the behavior of those who are learning the meaning of accepting the consequences of their acts, of forming awareness of what is good and what is unacceptable.
The child will be prepared to interact with their environment. It will have to be endowed with a good moral judgment. Empathy is essential, the ability to put yourself in the place of another person, how you feel, how you perceive. Empathy requires reflection, sensitivity and reduces (or eliminates) the possibility of violent responses.
Must teach to have healthy and lasting friends; educate in kindness, in altruism, in the you; promote solidarity.
How do we behave? Well, according to what we see, according to our self-esteem. We have to trust in ourselves, we must love ourselves, the positive self-concept correlates favorably with the help behavior, therefore, we must promote in the children a positive image of themselves based on the reality of their lives. Self-esteem is like an antidote, which protects us from psychological problems.
Each one has to learn self-control, to be serene, to reason objectively, to dialogue, to be balanced. Admit that problems, frustrations, are part of our life. Be honest with yourself and with others. Know the positive and negative of oneself, the limitations. Develop a sense of humor, self-criticism. Give yourself a goal, a goal.
Take responsibility for its consequences
Children are repeatedly told what they should or should not do (even say or keep quiet), but it is essential that they know how to handle their thoughts, because they condition emotions and feelings.
In the case of children, they must be educated in the tolerance of frustrations and in the ability to defer gratifications. Sometimes the child is educated to be able intellectually and formatively, but he forgets to teach to respond to emotional problems.
The child must be educated to be better, not the best.