Invest in a good adolescence from early childhood

I have good news and a bad one. The bad news is that adolescence is practically obligatory. The good news is that in all cases, it happens. It is "a disease that heals over time". But the healing time has to be spent.

The adolescence not only is it a natural stage in the development of our children, but it is necessary for their personality to set, at a slow fire, in a continuous shock of what they are, what they want to be and what they would like to be; in a battle between his low self-esteem and his ego excess; in a party of hormones that nothing helps the whole.

Since adolescence comes, parents can do little to avoid it. Our child of the soul is swallowed up by the monster of puberty that leaves only glimpses almost imperceptible. We should not worry more about the obligation because, after a few years of more thorns than roses, the monster will return it made a man.


But, caray with the thorns and the tortuous path, caray with the bad answers and with that languid sadness! Everything has to happen? No, not everything. Although almost everything, because at best we will be able to have a handful of clear, concise and important limits. But everything else is going to compromise, when not swallow, day yes day.

And can we avoid something? Is there any miraculous and preventive medicine that makes adolescence a more bearable time? Yes, we can avoid a lot and medicine, free of charge, is at our fingertips. It's called "good childhood education."


Let no one be deceived. This is not by far the panacea. Except for really exceptional causes, adolescence will arrive equally. But if we have invested well during childhood, the benefits obtained will allow us to ride without a crisis crisis, guaranteed adolescence.



Investment during childhood is a relatively simple task although it requires a large dose of patience and perseverance. The maxim "habit makes virtue" is fulfilled to the extreme in the early years of children, particularly until they begin to become aware of the outside world, between seven and ten years.

We perceive this with great clarity in mechanical and daily tasks that our children incorporate into their routines without the slightest problem. One day we were putting the body on the changing table, another showing them the right and the back of the socks and, suddenly, they dress themselves without a doubt.

The virtues are obtained by reiteration of good behaviors that end up becoming their own, not by infused science. The virtuoso of the violin has, perhaps, some genius. But what leads, above all, are many hours of tireless rehearsal that still today when it is recognized by critics and audiences. If he stopped rehearsing for only a few weeks, he would lose his virtuosity in the blink of an eye.


So in childhood, when repetition turns habits into virtues, is when we have to make large educational investments. The "thank you" and "please" learned "by heart" without a full understanding of the meaning they hide, become a reflex act that adolescence can not eradicate. In the same way that adolescence does not erase the way in which the sock must be put.

Investing, for example, in healthy hobbies, is almost a guarantee of success. If at eight you are excited about a sport or like to paint so much that it is your way to fill the time, if you have learned to substitute other children's videogames for rehearsing a bit more with the piano, you will not stop doing it as a teenager and busy time is time that is not used for other things we do not want.

If you have learned to think about the other because we have taught you to love in capital letters, to look a lot outward and little inward, adolescence will bring all your introspection but will not eliminate your empathy.

So, although adolescence has to be passed, it is cured. And a good childhood, well grounded, that avoids that modern figure of the "little dictator", is a guarantee that not only will it happen, but that the symptoms will be much more bearable.

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