8 tips to succeed in Christmas family gatherings
It's Christmas, where we're living family meetings, encounters with loved ones and mixed feelings. They are dates where our emotions are most vulnerable and we must control them. Knowing how to manage them now and in future family celebrations is key. Maybe other Christmases we have had conflicts in family meetings and we do not want them to happen again. What should we do to avoid it?
"In times of meetings, such as these Christmas holidays, sometimes the word happiness seems imposed and our emotions are on the skin, we can generate melancholy, stress, anguish over loneliness, or sadness about not having close to loved ones It is basic to control and manage our emotions and to know how to control them, so that feelings do not get out of hand.We must live in the present moment, since they are parties to enjoy and relax. We must promote the motivations and values we have: love, generosity, friendship, family, etc, "says David Gómez, Coach of Asesco (Spanish Association of Coaching).
The family is a key point of generation of conflicts in these holidays. Sometimes, the Christmas family reunions, instead of becoming a pleasant moment, they become a problem that generates stress. How to solve it?
8 keys for a family Christmas in peace and harmony
Ideas to manage stress and conflict to live Christmas as a family Take note so that everything changes for the future !:
1. Be responsible for our thoughts and emotions: We are all responsible for what we think. We have the ability to choose what we want to think. Our thoughts create how we feel, this creates our behavior or behavior and this affects the relationship with others and how we relate to them. If we can not change the others, let's change ourselves, adjust to the circumstances.
2. Know how to set limits. It is important to know how much you want to relate to others, setting limits, but you have to do it well, because if not, we pass. You have to do it always with respect and with a smile. When you feel safe and confident, things affect you in their proper measure and there is respect.
3. To know how to forgive: it is key to turn the page. If there is no forgiveness, that conflict will be repeated next year. If we forgive, we forgive each other.
4. Relativize. Do not give so much importance to the opinions and comments of others. Do not take things personally, as each one has the freedom to have an opinion. It is essential to relativize the comments of others.
5. Tolerance and understanding. It is basic to accept the other person, since we are all different with our circumstances and our life. We must be tolerant and accept different points of view without being offended.
6. The acceptance. Christmas is the time for meetings and encounters, where the feelings are sharpened, being able to recall past moments and even travel quarrels. If we do not tolerate it is very difficult to accept. If we are tolerant, accepting and forgiving, we will achieve progress. "This way, we do not have anything from the past and we can focus on the present moment." David Gómez affirms.
7. Do not judge, neither the other nor yourself, is one of the things that hurt us the most and in relationships with others. Putting a label is a big mistake.
8. Retrieve and connect with our deepest values. On these dates there are values that are more on the rise, such as family, love, surrender, solidarity, etc. These dates are a perfect opportunity to connect with our personal values and our motivations. "It is what gives life meaning, to connect with what we have inside, so we feel we have a purpose."
David Gómez. Coach of ASESCO (Spanish Coaching Association).
