See them coming ... when we are boyfriends
A few years ago - before the "moves" that now shake us? I picked up a sentence, of those that are recorded, to make use of it many times: the education of the children begins several years before the birth of their parents. It has appeared to me in the head, now that there is so much talk about preparing young people before they get married. I have already met well-intentioned boys and girls, who ask you for a book, a file to learn something before starting the adventure. He usually has a good intention for tons and something can be offered to them, if before he has been given some warnings.
I give an example. See how your boyfriend behaves, to warn that he is authentic. Another old aphorism reminds us that women conquer us by the eyes, by your "outer heart"; while we wrap women around our words. Therefore we must look at the way of acting of the boys, before their rhetoric. Facts, facts! They are the ones that count to know who we have before us. A good thermometer is to observe how he treats his parents, siblings, friends and companions.
There are still sensible people who have a reference to their own family. A well-known poetry reflects it at the beginning: I learned in the home where the most perfect happiness was founded, / and to make mine, / and I wanted to be like a father, / and I looked for a woman like my mother / between the daughters of my noble land.
In a more mocking language, I have a friend who reminds me frequently: "Convince yourself, the Chinese have to marry the Chinese!", Referring to the analogy of culture and education.
I'm not talking about 5,000 years ago. Just a month ago that a friend was venting with me, talking about the brides of their grandchildren. It has three men and all have gone to dinner with their "respective" and have lengthened until two in the morning. Bringing me home to their girlfriends is a good sign, because they think that girl can be comfortable in the environment. Apostille that four brides had already passed through his house, as one of the couples ran aground. It was not about listening to old people's morals, because they talked about a thousand varied topics, and when his grandchildren called him to listen to his opinion, he did not put any of them at fault. Moreover, I used to level them if someone put them.
In no way do I think that the children have to make a photocopy of their family. To refer to a very trivial topic, I remember that the first Christmas that my wife and I spent alone and we had to make the menu, when we compared, we saw that in his house and mine had been the same for years. "Here is the great opportunity to change and do what we want!", We thought.
Let's go back to the beginning. The preparation of the marriage is not resolved with four vagueness. In the suitcase for the honeymoon, the essential wicks that have been introduced throughout life must go. Surprises the minimum. It will take care of life to provide them, from the first day.
I do not say anything about couples who defend the theory of living together to test if they get along. Moral aspects apart, because they are not my concern, the most elementary common sense emphasizes that, lacking the serious commitment to live together all of life, has changed the argument in its own root and are doing "experiments with soda". As if that were not enough, a calm reflection shows that throughout the married life there is such a variety of circumstances, which can never be foreseen with "probatinas". A man and a woman are two living beings that every day change not only their cells, but their whole being, buffeted by a thousand ignored avatars.
To put things in serious you have to go to marriage with the determined determination to love yourself, even if I get tired, even if I can not, even if it breaks. * That's love, the rest are cheap sentimentality that ends with the disenchanted soul.