10 strategies to avoid getting angry this Christmas
Getting angry, having anger or anger They are considered negative emotions that can be felt at any age and at any time, even at Christmas when we are surrounded by family and friends we love. These emotions help us to deal with any situation that we consider unfair or with which we do not agree, but sometimes avoid getting angry it is the most prudent ..
However, anger causes changes in the person both physiological and emotional. On the one hand, it increases our heart rate and blood pressure and, at the same time, our thinking can become confusing, seeing things unclear, which can mean that we act hastily and uncontrollably. For example, attacking by insulting words or physically, kicking and beating.
How does anger manifest itself?
The manifestation of anger depends on the age, maturity and self-control that we have developed. In adolescence, several situations arise that can provoke anger. Some are the social pressure in relationships with friends and colleagues, communication and behavior with parents, the desire to be more independent of them, the pressure in the studies they attend, etc.
Strategies to avoid getting angry this Christmas
It is important that parents are attentive to the first signs of anger from their sons and daughters, in order to be able to anticipate and, on the other hand, they must exercise models of self-control and tolerance to best resolve these family anger:
1. Parents can be good models, if we also learn to positively identify and manage our emotions.
2. Encourage empathy. Knowing how to put ourselves in the place or in the same point of view of our children. For example, to think that when we were the same age, how did we feel in the same situation? and also how was the relationship with our parents and other adults?
3. Listen and respond when we have calmed down after having a tense discussion or situation. Try to change a negative emotion for a positive one.
4. Have a sense of humor. A sense of humor will help us all to assess situations, taking greater distance and in a less negative way.
5. According to the age they have, It is important that children and adolescents sleep the necessary hours. Sleeping fewer hours than necessary, in the same way that also happens to adults, can cause irritable behavior and feel less energetic to study, etc.
6. Do physical exercise. Practicing a sport or exercise that you like may be beneficial to reduce stress and control stress.
7. Establish scheduled routines of the things they have to do or collaborate at home, such as lowering garbage, buying bread, etc. In this way we will reduce possible comments on "why do I have to do it" and / or complaints about having to do so.
8. Be realistic and flexible, when we set schedules and tasks to be done. We can make the time more flexible, if it is difficult for them to comply with the agreed schedules. A tactic can be to notify them 5 minutes before, to do or finish a task. Although it is true that must adapt to meet the schedules previously agreed with them.
9. Give clear and short instructions, listening to them with a lot of patience and calmness and asking them so they do not have the feeling that we are questioning them.
10. Keep in mind that the future of adolescents is short-term. It takes great effort to think about a more long-term future, for example, next weekend. This helps us to take it into account when we comment on things like: "If you do not try hard, tomorrow you will not get ...".
Mercedes Corbella. Psychologist and diploma in Social Work.