Bad answers in children, how to manage them
No coexistence is perfect. No matter how much affection the members of a household profess, there will always be scuffles. Within this stress climate It is possible that the smallest give a bad answer either using a curse or lack of respect from parents. A situation in front of which we must react and educate the children so that they understand what it means to keep the forms with their interlocutor and to maintain a good debate where they do not fall into mistakes.
In order to take advantage of the bad answers to reeducate, the psychologist Javier Urra offers a series of advice to parents so that they can react positively when receiving this treatment from their children. An opportunity to redirect the situation in a positive way so that instead of increasing the tension, there is a lesson to teach the little ones.
Unavoidable conflicts in the family
The first thing parents should know is that arguments and conflicts are inevitable in every relationship. When a limit is set, it is normal for small children to respond negatively. Nobody likes to be told no and sometimes the little ones do not understand that not everything whim It can be obtained. What many see is that their parents want to give him a bad time.
At the same time it is possible for many children to excuse themselves that they are small and that they can not assume certain responsibilities, so when their parents claim some tasks they feel that these are a punishment. These are just some situations that cause conflict between parents and children and can lead to bad responses.
Once you know that conflicts are inevitable, you have to be prepared for everything and not rule out that the children answer bad forms. An attitude that as adolescence approaches is more likely to appear since the feeling of rebellion at this stage makes the intergenerational discussions become more intense. In both cases the answer is the same: maintain serenity.
Faced with the bad answers, there is no negotiation
The first thing to do in a discussion in which the child answers bad manners is to end the dialogue. The child or young person must understand that in this way he will not get anywhere and that in fact it is not convenient for him to continue on that path if he wants his opinion to be taken into account. Do not show flexibility in this regard, parents should remember the respect they deserve and that they are the highest authority at home.
In the event that curse words are used, parents should to show a total rejection of them and not fall into the game of provocations. If the attitude on the part of the children is maintained, not only will the conversations have to be concluded, but also a punishment that makes the child or young person understand that this behavior has negative consequences for their interests.
All these limits must be made clear in the slightest symptom of aggressiveness in the answers of the smallest. Parents are the highest authority in the home, with which they can talk, but they always deserve respect. In this sense you should never let the little one who is at the same height as their parents. A son is a son and a father is a father, so they will never assume the same roles within a home.
Damián Montero
