The couple in the middle of the rush, impatience and stress

Everyone knows that we are currently living in a society immersed in haste, where we want to reach many things and we complain continually about the lack of time for our partner and for our children, in short, for our family. How can love as a couple survive when we hardly see each other?

What is your family and partner project?

Far from wanting to give a catastrophic reading of the current state of our society, such reflections can help us to consider how these aspects influence the family and our relationships with the children, the couple and our relatives.

It can be useful to question us:

- Who has not complained on more than one occasion of not having time?
- How many times have we made the purpose of Looking for more time to dedicate to our partner? The much-needed time of sharing, caring and communicating marriage in "clandestinity".
- How many times have we decided to dedicate time to our children to have a leisurely conversation or share with them daily moments without doing a thousand things at once?
- How many times have we proposed to take care of our friends?
- How many times have we reproached ourselves for not offering more of our time to attend to "our elders"?


Prioritize what is really important for you: put a brake on frivolity

One of the things that define man is his ability to learn, grow and internalize, so it is good to reflect on aspects that may seem very basic, but not insignificant, and that in the day to day we come to neglect.

For this we propose some basic questions aimed at reflection, first individually and later with the couple.

- Review "where are we going". What we look for in life both in our family and in different personal areas.
- What is our scale of values ​​and fundamental motivations in life. Since the final objectives will also direct our daily actions.


All of this requires jointly putting together objectives aimed at the couple and the paternal and maternal function, since it is the articulation of the family and couple project. This consolidates the family's own style, which must be reviewed frequently so that the "urgent" does not supplant the "important".

It is appropriate for the mature man to review the coherence of his actions and also the repercussion of these on others. As a consequence, it is of interest to invest a little time in reviewing one's vital attitude, the intrinsic and real motivation of the actions, to outline the daily actions of a little more transcendence, care of things and people who they really matter, hitting frivolity or haste in this way.

Dr. Montse Giner Lladós. Clinical psychologist at the ABB Center. Professor at the UIC and the Abat Oliba University (CEU). Coordinator of the children's and adults' psychological office


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