Violence is not a good response against harassment

The bullying It has become a problem that has focused on a great concern among parents, educators and the victims of bullying themselves: the students. For this reason day after day it is about finding the solution that puts an end to this issue within the classrooms, there are even those who incite to respond with violence to these attacks.

But no, violence is not the response to violence. As much as the child may feel stressed and overwhelmed by this situation, we must teach him to keep the distance and ask for help instead of answering the same way stalker. This way of acting can only lead to a worsening of the situation that will never resolve it.


Teach to control emotions

From the Nemorus Foundation it is noticed that often the violent response on the part of the children harassed is due to an "emotional explosion" after seeing months and months as victims of their companions. After so long being harassed in the end they decide to respond violently to channel all the anger and frustration that have been saved.

The child, as a child, must be taught to control these emotions not to be carried away by them and to react rational form to these situations. The child should be taught that before confronting his aggressor violently, he should ask for help from teachers to adults. A fight may seem like the only way to escape, but this will only make the situation worse since the stalker will probably answer the blow, leading to a constant climate of violence.


A good way to instill this teaching is to show the courage that comes from dealing with this problem as an adult. With a fight he will not solve anything, but if he puts it to the attention of the professors, they will be able to do a lot and even take measures against the stalker so that he and his companions stop being victims of it.

Detect harassment

Perhaps for fear of reprisals the children do not communicate your situation to adults. Therefore, both parents and educators, should be alert to possible signs of this problem to act for them:

- Unexplained injuries. Constant wounds and children who do not want to talk about it.

- Loss or breakage of clothing and other objects, especially those considered 'valuable' by children.

- Frequent headaches or stomach, feeling of discomfort or simulation of constant illness to avoid going to school.


- Changes in eating habits, such as skipping meal times or berthing in response to your nervousness.

- Difficulty falling asleep or frequent nightmares. Low grades, loss of interest in homework. The child denies manifests to any matter related to the school.

- Sudden loss of friends or desire to avoid social situations.

Damián Montero

Video: What Is Online Harassment?


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