Keys to connect with your partner on vacation
The Relationship It is a very special relationship that is based on a very close bond between two people and that involves achieving a balance between intimacy (love), commitment and passion or attraction. Sometimes achieving this balance can be somewhat complicated, there can be problems in the emotional connection that endanger the bond and the relationship. The relationship is based on the connection, it is very important to connect with the couple.
The couple relationship and its stages
The relationship is a very special relationship between two people, a relationship that is based on strong emotional ties. But love is not always simple. All couples go through different stages ranging from the initial infatuation where attraction predominates, to the consolidation of the relationship or the consolidation of love or breaking it.
In between, the couple goes through a series of stages that also entail critical moments, through which intimacy, commitment and passion are consolidated or little by little they are destroyed. The key to maintaining these basic ingredients and consolidating the link is the ability to connect with the other.
The importance of connecting with the other
A couple is the union of two people and, as in other types of relationships, it is very important to understand the other and connect with him or her.
At first, in the phase of falling in love, there is a chemical display in the brain that activates the circuits of well-being. In these moments everything is beautiful and perfect, but there is no connection, everything is based on attraction. With time the attraction remains, but the strength of those circuits diminishes and it is when we begin to know that person better and the bond narrows.
A couple that works well, a couple that is happy, is a couple able to connect as a couple, beyond the individuality of each one. This is not about giving up individuality in order to be a couple, but about knowing how to go further to understand the other and connect with the other. Every relationship must be sustained in a deep emotional connection, which leads us to tune in with the other's emotions, in order to enjoy together and respect the other's emotions. When this does not happen and we focus on our own emotional states can appear problems and conflicts of couple.
Keys to connect with your partner on vacation
Connecting with the couple is essential, let's see some keys to connect with the couple and strengthen the bond.
1. Legitimize your emotions. Do not judge, criticize or disparage, you may not always share your emotions and sometimes you prefer more positive emotions in different situations. But remember that emotions are something personal and subjective, the first step to connect is to accept and respect the emotions of your partner. Mind you, it's not about accepting all the acts that are the result of those emotions, we can criticize the act. For example: it is important to accept and respect the other's anger, but not the acts that result from that anger that can be harmful (such as insults, shouting, etc.).
2. Give prominence to your partner. Your partner needs to feel important to you, it is important to start giving your moments of prominence. It is simpler than we can suppose, with small gestures is enough, a call, a compliment, a thank you, etc.
3. Use the smile and positive emotions. All people like positive emotions, everything that involves positive emotions generates well-being. It is important that the relationship is based on positive emotions, on well-being and for that you have an amazing weapon, the smile.
4. Cheat less and look for the positive side. Learn to share with another person. Sometimes we get used to the complaint when something we do not like or is not as we would like. We must bear in mind that the other person is not there to please us, therefore we must put aside that complaint and learn to share moments. Instead of complaining about what you do not do, or what you are not, try to change your way of communicating and try to say what you like about what you do and what it is.
Celia Rodríguez Ruiz. Clinical health psychologist. Specialist in pedagogy and child and youth psychology. Director of Educa and Learn. Author of the collection Stimulate Reading and Writing Processes.
