Learning to be patient: when and how to wait
The patience, like everything, he educates himself with patience. And we all know from experience that we lose it more easily with what we breathe. It is the ability to suffer or endure something without being disturbed.
But who in their right mind can remain unchanged before those children who pee non-stop, who do not eat, who cry without knowing why they do it, who go beyond what we tell them (sometimes because they do not even understand us) And who smile at the red face of anger the fifth time they have thrown the spoon full of food?
Or when they are older and arrive late at the table, at all the tables: lunch and study, when they say "I know!" And they have sat down five minutes ago to learn a complete subject of Knowledge of the Environment, or when, for the umpteenth time, they have left their clothes hanging in the air and, of course, they are on the floor ... or when they face us. They stand up to us because they are told to simply do what they have to do!
Be patient when educating: an impossible challenge?
For those geniuses of the almost impossible, we must be the adults that brought these creatures to our love with this world after nine months of infinite patience wishing to see their faces. We, who are their referents, their role models, those who mark the good and the bad, must learn to be patient. Dad and mom will be your models. And as we teach them to be, they will try to make their future families. There is nothing! That is our responsibility, to set an example. Patience is the basic ingredient to educate better.
Yes, So that our patience not be a reason for their irresponsibility and lack of education to be in simple inhibition, must walk with the requirement, friendly but firm, not to allow the spoon on the floor, capricious crying, disobedience, serious schedules, the requirement personal, or the good ways of our children. And that requires a great dose of serenity, firmness, knowing well what is the goal to achieve and forecast of positive or negative consequences according to what they are doing or what they know they should do.
We are very apprehensive to punish, to reprimand, and not to say what we have said would happen if they did this or that. When we have repeated something, and the second does not, we warm up engines. To the fourth fit two positions: or they do forced because, yes, because we must do it, or we do it adults and so we finish earlier and we do better. Doing it implies lack of patience both on our part and on his. Getting them to end up doing it denotes patience as parents and teach patience to the children. But to reach this point it is necessary that children know how to face tasks that require patience.
Teach them to do heavy and meticulous things
For what learn to be patient, we have to equip them with the ability to do heavy or meticulous things. Those things that cost, that do not come out the first time. Those are precisely those who have to do alone, calm, without fainting and without our direction. Point the way yes, walk it together, no. Do not go to the first, look what went wrong and for that! The second equal and the third also. When they achieve it, there is no greater satisfaction than feeling capable and also perceiving the satisfaction of their parents.
Knowing how to wait when something is desired
"Now, mom!" I want it now, I need it since yesterday. "At that moment, we have to wait: what's important, tomorrow, what's very important, the day after tomorrow, to be sure, if it's something that is bought, what to save. really need at this precise moment.
Those interruptions to the conversation of the elderly, because they need something "already", they have to receive by answer, in the first place, the silence for not respecting the moment to make the request. Everything has its time and so everything comes when it should. Let's be patient They will learn to wait. The value of waiting has so many rewards!
It is essential to teach them to wait when they say:
- I want to watch TV now.
- Mom buy me that * porfa, porfa, porfa.
- I'm hungry, thirsty, hot, cold.
- I do not understand this, explain it to me.
- Mom, he does not want to play with me what I want!
- I'm studying, but I need to drink.
- I lost such a thing, buy me another one.
- I do not get it right, I do something else.
- I do not want this extracurricular activity anymore, change me.
- This is old, I need another.
Lourdes Giner. Teacher and coordinator of Primary in the Orvalle School (Madrid)