Children critical, how to educate to avoid this annoying behavior
The comparisons are odious and from them they derive in many occasions critical towards other people considering that they are less than who makes them. Many parents are surprised to see their children make fun of others considering that they have a defect that they consider "funny" or that they are inferior to them. How can someone so small behave this way?
The solution, as always, goes through education. Integrating empathy in the upbringing of children favors a development aimed at avoiding their behavior carper. Parents can contribute a lot to prevent these hurtful attitudes in their children that can lead to much more serious problems such as bullying.
Perfectionist children
Why a child begins to to criticize too? From the Ministry of Education of Navarre several causes are pointed out, among which the perfectionist feeling of the smallest ones, who pretend to manifest their power through these actions, stands out. The little ones feel above the rest and to express it, they compare themselves with others, highlighting the negative qualities they possess.
In addition, with these negative critiques, children also feel power to dominate the emotions of other people when through criticism is able to generate in the other the sensation that is sought. Along with this explanation, others are also offered related to the search to possess all the leadership:
- Draw attention. Mocking is an effective way to receive attention, the rest of his teammates laugh with him about this joke and becomes the protagonist of the situation at the expense of this criticism.
- Be accepted in your group. The need for belonging can be so strong that the child makes fun of others to be accepted by the rest.
Education also plays a very important role in critical children, from the values transmitted by parents, to what they understand as socially acceptable, having seen it on television:
- Imitation Some children model their behavior by imitating what is happening around them, in the same family as their parents or siblings. If they see their parents making fun of other people and highlighting their negative qualities, they understand that this is a value to imitate.
- Influence of media. Some television shows show the protagonists of series mocking and highlighting the most negative qualities of other people. In this sense, it is necessary to monitor what children see on this platform before their undeniable influence on education.
What can parents do
As has already been said, the answer lies in the education of More smalls. It is up to the parents to ensure that through their teachings and the transmission of values it is possible to avoid children showing these behaviors.
- Educate in empathy. Children should understand that with their negative criticisms they generate a feeling of sadness in their peers. Generating this empathy will make you think twice before making these jokes.
- Make them understand the differences. Not everyone is the same, but being different is not a problem. Children must understand that they are going to meet people from different cultures, ways of seeing life and with qualities different from their own, and they can learn a lot from them if they open up a bit.
- Self-evaluation. Parents should look at each other and see what image they give to children. Sometimes older people show behaviors that can inculcate bad values such as making fun of a person known for his new image or a co-worker for his performance.
- True friendship. Children must understand that a true friendship is based on trust and understanding and not on the feeling of leadership and authority achieved at the cost of leaving another person in a bad place.
Damián Montero
