The secret of love, what happens when we fall in love?
When we fell in love from a person we begin to feel different, our body begins to experience unknown sensations so far and we notice the famous "butterflies in the stomach". We enter a kind of nervous state that intensifies when we see that person, and that is altered only by thinking about her. It seems as if we lose our heads for that person.
What happens to us when we fall in love?
What happens when we fall in love? What is it that makes that part of us that we did not know so far leave? When we meet that special person, the first thing that happens is that he attracts us physically and, little by little, we are attracted by his personality, as he is. Our thoughts revolve around her with what we deconcentrate more easily, we have a lot of desire to spend more and more time with that person, and when we have it in front of us it seems that our heart is going to come out of our chest. This is how we know we are in love.
The secret of love, what happens to the brain?
When we fall in love, changes occur at all levels and all these changes have their explanation. Science has shown that love in its first phase is a chemical reaction and as such causes reactions in the brain similar to the reactions of a person suffering from an obsessive-compulsive disorder.
Our enamored organism begins to release chemical substances, responsible for the feelings we feel when we are with the other person.
One of these substances that intervene in infatuation is the dopamine, which floods the reward centers of the brain. The effect is the same as if we took a drug, this substance creates very strong links between pleasure and the object of desire, in this case the person from whom we fall in love and provokes a state of euphoria and natural happiness when we are in front of She, in addition to raising our sexual desire.
Other substances that come into play in love are the norepinephrine, which is responsible for the removal of hunger; oxytocin, which is responsible for us being more affectionate and the serotonin, which diminishes and causes us to "obsess" with the beloved person, that is, we do not stop thinking about him or her at all times.
What happens in our behavior when we fall in love?
When we are in love we change, we tend to idealize the person we have fallen in love with, we attribute a lot of positive qualities and we do not see the defects. In addition, we become very sensitive to grasp the needs and desires of the other.
Our way of behaving changes in such a way that we fit inside the prototype dreamed by the other person, and in this way we avoid being rejected. And it is with the passage of time and the acquired confidence that we are showing ourselves just as we are.
When we fall in love, many changes appear in us that make it easier for the relationship to arise, and over time, these changes stabilize and willingness and effort come into play as requirements for love to last forever.
Rocío Navarro Psychologist Director of Psicolari, integral psychology
