Errors that are committed when sending a child to the corner of thinking
When a child misbehaves, one of the most common punishments by parents is to send the child to the thinking corner. A technique that on the one hand aims to calm the nervousness of the child in these situations and on the other hand make the child reflect on his behavior so that he can deduce why he was scolded and put a solution.
But do you know how to apply this technique well? If some mistake is made, this time in the thinking corner may involve minutes in which the child simply awaits the lifting of the punishment to return to play without having reached any reflection. Knowing what mistakes can be made will help parents succeed in this activity.
Errors of parents
1. Use it often. An error is often to employ this punishment regularly. Repeating this action continuously will simply indicate to the child that when he misbehaves, he simply has to wait a while before going back to his old ways. It should be used in situations where it really deserves a reprimand, not as a response to each behavior.
2. Pay too much attention. Sending a child to the corner of thinking also means depriving him of some attention. When the child is going through this punishment must understand that this situation has derived from their behavior, but if you are constantly attending, this effect will not be connected.
3. Use it improperly. You have to know what situations deserve this reprimand and what not. At times it may be best to sit down and talk to the child and make him understand why his behavior was wrong. Conversely, it can also end up provoking a feeling of rejection on the part of the child, who really needs someone to guide him in this confusion.
4. Do not ask what you have learned. As has been said, sending a child to the corner of thinking has two purposes: one to calm the child and two, make him reflect on his behavior. If you do not discuss your feelings later with the child, this lesson may not be of any use. You have to encourage the child to share these thoughts so that he internalizes them better.
5. Control the times. Raising the punishment too soon can make the child not learn any lessons, but forcing him to stay too long does not ensure anything unless he gets angry more. You have to find the right moment to end your stay in the corner of thinking, for example when you put aside your tantrum after knowing that you will be reprimanded for their behavior.
6. Do not respond to your claims. It is possible that the child tries to break his isolation with several complaints, such as asking for a glass of water. Parents must stand firm and not fall into them, leaving the child alone with his thoughts so that he reaches his own reflection.
Damián Montero
