The 7 great enemies of our happiness
Perhaps, you have ever asked yourself what it is that differentiates happy people from people who are. While there are people who before or after difficult circumstances have the ability to go through these processes and remain motivated and happy people, others when a painful situation occurs, they keep reminding and suffering for years. The truth is that happiness is something that is in our hands, is an attitude towards life, a daily decision.
7 enemies of happiness that sabotage her
To learn to manifest and feel it every day, it is important to get away from these seven enemies that sabotage us happiness:
1. Obsession People who obsess every day for small things: what they have to do, what their partner has told them, what happened yesterday with a partner, their weight, their image ... they lose the possibility of enjoying the present. By remembering something that worries them constantly they are resenting the situation, suffering again, for something that has already happened or that has not yet happened.
In general, they are people with a high degree of demand, with low self-esteem or insecurities that do not let them trust the process of life and let go.
2. Fear It is the most important saboteur in our lives because it makes us live with anxiety new challenges and adventures making them uncomfortable rather than stimulating and, in many cases, this fear is such that we avoid or postpone things that could fill us with love and happiness.
Fear does not allow us to move towards a better job, a better relationship * because it fills our minds with buts, with possible problems and keeps us trapped in the known good or bad.
3. The dissatisfaction. Seeing the glass always half empty forces people to look at what they do not have instead of thanking and enjoying what they do have.
This creates a permanent dissatisfaction, which makes the things that come to them never live up to their expectations. The way out of this state is to learn a new habit, that of feeling gratitude for the good that comes to us, even if it is not all we wanted, letting go of the prejudices of how it should be, to make way for what it is.
4. The complaining and negative attitude of life and circumstances. These are the so-called "toxic people", because they complain about everything, something always happens to them, it hurts here and there, they complain about whatever time it is, of their boss, partners, partner, of what they do and do not do , they always criticize everything, they usually see the difficulties and the problems instead of looking at the possibilities and the solutions, they stay trapped in past situations that did not go well, maintaining an excuse to have something to complain about or what justify his fatalistic and negative way of seeing life.
Anyone can spend a season feeling like this for something that has happened to us or for repeated setbacks, anyone can take the habit of staying stuck in this negativity and to avoid doing so we need to be aware of ourselves so as not to repeat or maintain this attitude that makes any person moves away because it generates a very dense and exhausting energy.
These people need to relearn to think positive and make an effort to choose to be happy and not complain until it becomes their new habit.
5. Negative emotions such as resentment and guilt. Throughout life it is inevitable that some person disappoint us or harm us consciously or unconsciously.
But it depends on oneself the time and the way we choose that this fact keeps us vibrating in resentment and wounded, while we remain hurt we suffer for something that can no longer be changed and that no longer exists, it is a way in which we we abandon ourselves to give more importance to the mistakes and mistakes of another.
The way out of this is to heal pain by loving us to allow us happiness again. The same happens when we are the ones who make mistakes, eternally whipping us for something that we did not do well will not make this better, and that we punish ourselves will not compensate for the damage done, it only serves to learn from what happened and let go to feel centered and happy not to repeat the error again.
But if we do not, guilt becomes very destructive because we do not feel deserving of happiness and we unconsciously spoil it.
6. The disconnection of love. This is what keeps us away from happiness, because the moment I close my heart I stop loving life in all its forms, I stop enjoying people, what I do and feel a great internal emptiness that does not It can be filled with nothing that comes from outside.
This vacuum is this Lack of love for me, which needs to be filled with attention and self-care, rediscovering one's own light, the path that motivates one, what can contribute to the world, what one enjoys and has forgotten and neglected.
It also produces a great sadness the loneliness not sought, that in which the person can not relate to others, in which he can not give or receive affection, it may be because he has no family, partner, or friends with whom to share.
Because even though one can love and give oneself affection, it has been demonstrated that the human being needs the affection of others to be happy.
7. The lack of meaning in life. Many people feel lost and frustrated because they do not know what they want to do with their life, what direction to take or what they like and really fills them, which makes them live without motivation. It is very typical in adolescence but it can happen at any age or around the quarantine when you see that you have spent a good part of your life working on something that you do not want or wasting your time and you realize that you need to find a new direction that gives meaning to his life.
Idoia Berridi. Nutritionist and life coach. Author of the Book BeLove Method. Blog Be happy, be healthy, be you.
