Tutoring: how to prepare the interview with the teacher-tutor
Throughout the course you have to keep an occasional tutoring or interview with the teacher-tutor of our son. When the child is small, a single teacher has enough overall vision; but when the child is older, the work of the teacher-tutor or teacher in charge It is fundamental because it consists of coordinating the task of all the teachers involved in the education of the son or daughter.
The periodicity of interviews with the teacher-tutor It varies a lot depending on each family. In any case, an approximate criterion could be seen at the beginning and end of the course and a couple of times in the interval. There is no need for any worrying subject to arrange an interview with the teacher-tutor. Moreover, when everything is going well it is the ideal moment to talk about how to strengthen the strong points, the steps that must be taken to achieve the educational project, etc.
Unless some issue is especially serious, in which case the tutoring or interview will be monographic, it is good to address a wide range of topics: the subjects, if necessary one by one; the goals of character, relationship with colleagues and friends; development of virtues such as order, sincerity, industriousness, generosity, etc. Ordinarily, it should be the parents who will take the initiative to arrange it, assisting both spouses. All issues related to the education of children interest both.
How to prepare the interview with the teacher-tutor
It is basic that the interview is prepared by both parties and that there is a line of continuity between all the interviews. To do this, you can take notes (both before and after the interview), although this will depend on the number of topics covered, the commitments acquired and the memory of each one.
By the teacher-tutor is elementary who speaks before with other teachers to contrast opinions. You should also check the latest grades, memorize the first name of the mother and father, think about the questions you want to ask both, in the action plans you want to suggest, etc. When the student's or student's knowledge is very high, it may not be necessary to take notes; otherwise, it will be very convenient.
On the part of the parents there must also be a prior preparation of the tutorials. You should not go to the interview with the passive attitude of "see what they tell me". Husband and wife should think together about possible issues to address, in which fields to ask for advice, contrast with the tutor if the perception from the school and the family coincide and, if not, in what and why they disagree. It is not uncommon for behavior to differ between home and school or that in dealing with a teacher it is discovered that the versions about a child are different.
The key to tutoring: the responses of the teacher-tutor
When parents are interested in some specific data, it is worthwhile to notify the teacher-tutor in advance so that he / she can obtain the necessary information and prepare the interview. If the parents saw that the tutor answers with generic, ambiguous phrases or common places, it may be appropriate to ask him to get the information and inform us in detail in the following conversation. If this is done in a habitual way, it should be requested, if possible, the change of tutor or to request interviews with those teachers of the child who are able to respond.
For the same reason that some teachers are better educators than others, there are also some parents who are more objective than others. It is not uncommon for the affection to blind a father or mother and not to admit to being limited by the son or daughter. In these cases, the work of tutoring becomes difficult and the climate in which the interview unfolds does not have the harmony demanded by the educational action.
Focusing the interview focusing primarily on the shortcomings of the other party is a bad approach. Any school or family can be found many flaws or imperfections.
A tutoring with perspective
Some perspective is needed, in the positive and in the negative, to perceive with time those that are outlined as strengths or weaknesses of the personality of a student or of a son or daughter. Things do not happen suddenly, nor are they unpredictable. In the last years of primary school, it is already possible to anticipate how adolescence is foreseen. It may be worthwhile to see how the older students of the school are to guess how your oldest child will be or, at least, how their classmates will be.
According to the sensitive periods, it is necessary to build in such a way that at the end of those periods of calm in the psychological evolution, the son or daughter finds himself with the defenses prepared to enter into phases of greater conflict. Without unnecessary alarmisms you have to know how to give importance to the small details that can later be serious.A boy or girl who drinks three sodas at a birthday party, when he is a few years older, is likely to do the same but with alcoholic beverages.
Positive sense of the interview with the teacher-tutor
Those who only consider intervening when they see difficulties, who lack a positive sense in education, can cost that constructive attitude of those who believe in a project. In education, it is not so much a matter of avoiding defects as of acquiring virtues.
Topics to be covered in tutoring: the interview with the teacher-tutor
Specifying some details, we can think, as parents, what five points can be addressed in the next interview. These are some:
- Strong and weak point of the son or daughter.
- Ask the teacher-tutor to rate from 0 to 10 their spirit of work, companionship and order.
- Analyze if reasoning or memorism predominates in your study.
- Think about some aspect of the character that should be reinforced.
- Specify some detail of service in the family or with friends.
- Contrast the opinion with the teacher-tutor on the degree of confidence of the child with you.
- Relationship with colleagues and deal with friends.
- Cultural training. Readings and movies.
- Concerns to help the most needy.
José Manuel Mañu Training Director of the Gaztelueta School