The mother: what does the mother contribute to the children?

role of father.

Dad and mom, by their condition of man and woman, they contribute differently to the children in their development. From the moment a child is born, each parent separately, but in addition, helps determine complex processes such as being a person and sexual identity. The mother has its own characteristics, which complements the

The characteristics of the human being, from language to values, are obtained, largely through contact with other human beings. This is how parents contribute to developing their children's identity, to recognizing others similar to them and providing them with a world full of values.


Each of the parents influences this process in a different way, without premeditation, just because he is a man or a woman. The fact that both are complementary provides the children with a complete vision of the world.

The influence of the mother in the lives of her children

These are the particularities of the mother, because of her status as a woman and of the roles or roles she usually assumes within the family and society.

Characteristics of the mother

Just by breastfeeding, and being dedicated to the direct care of the child, the woman has a more physical and emotional relationship with the children. In addition, it is easier to communicate verbally and to share intimacy. Hence, their relationships tend to be more expressive. Therefore, also, serves as a bridge with dad. As for the problems, he analyzes them from the affective point of view. If a child arrives with a bad grade, try to find out what is happening at school, etc.


Mother's education means

The mother usually learns through daily coexistence: while she orders, she bathes the children, helps with homework, goes shopping ... she transmits a way of seeing the world.

Specific contents of the mother

· For being more communicative and being in the day to day with the children, transmits the language more effectively.
· Give affection, affection, comfort ...
· Nearest relationship, physical.
· His love for the son for direct line.
· More comforting His authority is given by the management of every day and by the figure of the father who supports it.
· More difficult relationship of greater conflicts and frictions for the "day to day".
· Protective with the children.
· Risk: overprotect them.
· Paper towards the father: support him in his proposals and games, not to contradict him or recriminate him for his work or activities apart from the family and foster the relationship with the children.


If the mother is missing ...

Mothers, especially when the child is a boy, can have difficulty building loving bonds with other people. It may cost you to give love, be insecure and show yourself in need of a tie that contains it. When analyzing cases of alcohol and drug use, it is common to see that there has been an absent mother.

This is how the mother influences the child

Development of his masculinity

In the process of identification as a man, it is necessary for the mother to support him. The child tends to adopt the role of the father and she projects in him the role of husband. So, for example, he asks you to fix the plug, carry something heavy, etc.

In this differentiation of roles, it is important to teach them to be aware of their limitations and risks.

Clichés like "men do not cry" and "women do not hit" do not contribute to making a man and truth. Just as the excess of demands on what it is to be a man can lead him to consider himself as such if he is cruel or violent. Depending on how the mother treats him, it will help him to have a sensibility of his own.

Adapt to its characteristics

Children demand more from their mother than girls because they are more active and transgressors of norms. He must adapt to these behaviors, such as allowing him to play more outside, etc.

Reaffirmation of their sex

The child has an active role in their sexual identification. From a very young age, he chooses his clothes and games according to their "manly" nature. Ask mother gestures in this search for his masculinity: phrases like "is the man of the house", buy male rapa, etc. Although it can be considered absurd, transgressing cultural norms, such as putting on more "feminine" clothes, makes him suffer.

Support to the father

When congratulating him on his work or on his sports, manual or technological skills, he becomes more attractive as a model for the child.

Cecilia Fontaine
Advisors: Malva Villalón and Sergio Canals, Psychiatrists.

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