Babies: how to treat them according to their character
Is he a whiner who does not stop waging war and you do not know what to do with him? Or, nevertheless, is your baby so calm that she hardly changes and is content with anything? In both cases you will have to learn to know him to treat you according to your character, and being very aware of its evolution to know how to offer what it demands at each moment.
Babies appear for the first time in the world, stressed. Suddenly, he finds himself in a totally unknown environment where the doctor, the nurses and a host of relatives and friends will want to appear before the eyes of the little one. The role of the mother will be fundamental in the first moments. Each baby will evolve in a different way and there are several factors that influence the way you behave: genetics, the environment that will be determining, diseases or other disorders.
The personality of the baby: open to your needs
Therefore, parents must be totally open to our child's needs. Crying is the only way to communicate with you and will cry for everything: for the diaper change, for the gases, because your arm hurts, because you have heat, hunger, thirst, because you want to turn around, etc. And all this will be done by a single signal.
When a child cries, the muscle tone goes up, so we must let him express himself. "Think before everything, that you must learn little by little, that you are inexperienced but that you are the best mother for your baby", affirms Julia Durruty, technical director of the Centro de Estimulación Infantil Debebé of Madrid.
However, you need some time for your baby and you to adapt and it is important that you do not take into account the popular advice, because every mother and baby is different. What can be useful to one, maybe to another does not help you.
Active babies or quiet babies
The baby that is described at first as weeping and nervous (This child does not stop! He already has us all crazy!) When a few months pass, it usually seems to calm down. I do not know very well if it is that the "difficult" child has become more good and rested or is that parents have become more tolerant with their crying and more experts because they have devised a series of strategies to calm him down and play with him.
On the other side of the scale, we are, however, with the child tranquilón (He spends all day sleeping ... I barely know that I have it at home!) That after a year begins to demand the presence of his parents and he becomes a more problematic child for them.
If your baby is nervous and easily disturbed, You will have to teach him to calm down using a very soft tone of voice and slowly, or quiet music, rock him and talk to him. Also, it is imperative that you learn to be tolerant and very patient.
On the contrary, if your baby is very calm, you have to take it - even if you do not demand it - and stimulate it, that is, talk to it, do gymnastics, teach it colors ... etc. In short, stimulate him with the same techniques that you would apply to a much more active child.
Numerous studies show that a child who is stimulated is smarter than one who does not. On an emotional level, they are usually much happier children. In addition, the child when he cries, receives from the mother different alternatives, something that helps him to tolerate frustration better.
The role of the father in the care of the baby
The father plays a very important role in the upbringing of his son. It is then when the baby will begin to recognize two voices, two faces and two smells. The child always gives his affection to the person with whom he feels safe, and if the father also takes care of him, he can stay with him as long as the mother remains absent, without any problem. The father also has to learn to know his son.
Find separate moments of your baby
It is essential that you receive a lot of help (your husband, family, friends) so that you are in good condition and can be available for all the demands of the baby. You must think that from one day to the next you stop sleeping and that the first three months are of total anarchy. By not having a restful sleep, you can not fully attend to your child and your cognitive ability decreases, you are more irritable and all this causes a great deterioration.
It is also advisable that you have separations from your son from time to time, and you can return home with the joy of reunion. In this way, you will gradually recover your previous life.
Crying does not always mean eating
On countless occasions, the child's crying irritates you so much that you start to get very nervous. This is transmitted to the child and this, instead of calming down, is much more altered. In the end, it is like a vicious circle because both of you are tense and you do not solve anything. Calm down and try to relax.
On the other hand, many mothers make the mistake of soothing the child's crying by feeding him.It is important that you know that the sensation of a full petrel calms your anxiety and that you usually tolerate the one that gives you more bottles even if you do not need it. Try to avoid taking this measure because with it, what you get is that the child becomes more obese.
Tips to treat your baby according to his personality
1. Always try to transmit security, tranquility and creates pleasant situations for the child, not forcing him to do anything he does not want.
2. It is essential that you find yourself in optimal physical and mental conditions when you start raising your child. He, now needs a lot of you and everything that can harm or worry you, it will affect him. Enjoy motherhood
3. The important thing is that you learn little by little to know your son so that he learns to cry and then calm down and in this way, the little one will go self-regulating.
4. There are situations that stress the baby during its first six months: going to the supermarket, the beach where there are usually many people, loud music etc. Try not to go with him to this kind of places when you see him more nervous. You need to be in quiet places with a more relaxed atmosphere. However, when you are quiet, you can occasionally take you to bustling places. Talk to him and explain what you are seeing as it represents another way to stimulate him.
Marina Berrio
Advisor: Julia Durruty. Specialist Psychologist in Early Childhood (0 to 3 years)
