Anxiety when separating from parents, how to help them
Although spending time with the little ones is something wonderful, there are certain situations in which Fathers and sons they can not be together Work, a commitment to which they can not go or a trip are some situations in which adults must leave the care of other people to the little ones.
It can happen on these occasions that children feel anxious about having to separate from their parents and stay at home with other people. However, you have to know how to handle these situations to make these inevitable moments easier for the little ones.
Feelings of parents
When it is time to go out the door of the house and leave the children in the care of other people, it is inevitable feel something wrong to see them cry and sad to get away from their parents. These are some feelings that remain in adults who have to say goodbye to their children:
- Guilt. Feeling responsible for this anxiety in children is something that causes a feeling of guilt in the parents. Nobody likes to cause harm to anyone and less to children. But adults must understand that they are not really causing harm and that it is something natural and inevitable.
- Nervousness. It will be OK? Will he have fallen ill in the absence of the parents? It is common to think that the child may be wrong. But you have to trust that person who is taking care of the child.
Help them overcome anxiety
Since these situations are inevitable, you have to know how to help the little ones cope with them and make the anxiety they feel at the moment reduce as much as possible:
- Do not postpone the situation. There are parents who postpone leaving their children in the care of others for fear of these reactions. However, this only helps when they decide to do it finally costs even more.
- Smile at them. Against crying it is best to smile. Worrying and pouting will only make the child more overwhelmed and more nervous.
- Make them understand that the return will be before what they believe. Children must understand that it is not a final goodbye, it is only a good-bye. That for a brief moment the parents will be away but they will return sooner than they think.
- Trust with the caregiver. It is always better for children to know the person who will take care of them. Resorting to a close relative such as an uncle or a grandparent is the best option. A close friend or neighbor is also an alternative to consider.
- Never threaten them. Resorting to the threat of whether or not they stay at home with the caregiver or are punished will only help them see these situations as a terrible and worse time than it already is. They have to understand these moments as something normal, not as an obligation that, if not fulfilled, can lead to punishment.
Damián Montero
