The role that parents play when choosing a university degree
The choice of the university career is not only a problem of orientation, often contradictory emotions are also involved: the natural tendencies of young people come into conflict with what parents want for their children. The result, beyond the normal confusion that characterizes this transition, is a state of tension, both individual and family, which, clearly, does not facilitate the task.
What we should not do
In the first place, we should not worry too much about the problems of our children, we risk becoming overprotective parents, or helicopter parents, generating a difficult relationship that may affect their capacity for initiative. Our children are already young adults, capable of making their own decisions and overcoming the obstacles that stand in their way of life. The real task of the parents is to guide the children and help them to face the problems, in no case to solve them for them.
If, for example, we assume the full weight of the children's education on our shoulders, we will not be able to become adults prepared to face life, but in limited and dependent people. It is important to participate in this election, but it is fundamental that they are the ones who make the final decision. Above all, we must remain calm: if we let stress and nervousness overtake us, we will transmit these negative feelings to our children, affecting and conditioning their decision. The time has come when we should simply cut the umbilical cord and let the children fly with their own wings.
Some useful suggestions
Our children must take into consideration some aspects before choosing the faculty in which they will study: the prestige of the university, the curricula that it proposes, the quality of the teaching staff or the association with other institutions, are factors that can help make the right choice.
We, as parents, can offer our children some useful tools to choose the specialization knowing as much information as possible: suggest a list of universities to highlight the pros and cons of each one of them (entrance requirements, possibility of internships) , whether or not they offer experiences abroad, etc). This will give them a general overview of the landscape and facilitate the choice.
In addition, we can suggest that you look for information on all universities, including on-line universities, which offer a form of training with which it is possible to study remotely, from computers, thus allowing students to have more time for other activities such as training work or other specialization courses. An example of an online university is the Unicusano, synonymous with tradition, innovation and excellence, which is a leader in the field of distance university education and offers a wide range of courses with updated study plans that guarantee optimal placement possibilities.
The role of instinct
Whatever the path undertaken by your children, the important thing is that it is something that they are passionate about, which will also allow them to finish soon the studies. Always remember that it is best to let yourself be guided by instinct, guide your child to know and identify their interests, their passions, their aspirations and their aptitudes: they will be a happier and more motivated person if they choose a university career that is really made for him.
