Clubs: the discovery of teenagers

Does a 14-year-old boy or girl have maturity to attend a discotheque? The moment, sooner or later, ends up arriving. The teenagers think that the disco will be a good site where you can meet new people, even to the love of his life. When this decision is transferred to the parents it can become a problem, whether there is an excessive permissiveness or an absolute prohibition. Both extremes can be counterproductive.

The great evasion of discos for teenagers

The nightclubs Light they are designed for teenagers from 14 to 17 years old, in afternoon sessions from 6:00 pm to 10:00 pm. By law, the consumption and sale of alcohol and tobacco is prohibited. In the discotheque It is always night. In it many teenagers believe they find the newly discovered freedom and want to release at all costs. They can dance, chat, meet people, experience new sensations, release new experiences ... without putting anything at stake.

The flashing lights cancel out the view; the shrill music, the ear; alcohol (if they drink outside or inside if someone carries a petaquita), taste and speech; the charged environment, the smell; and the agglomeration of bodies, the touch. The maladjustment of the senses obscures the reason, communication becomes impossible, it is shouted and the physical contact replaces the words. But also, the boy or girl unload adrenaline and have a great time.

Some people in the disco get to experience an incredible process of transformation: timid who become bold, solitary who are accompanied, unfriendly who seem sympathetic, innocent who lose their innocence, rejected who are accepted, prudish and audacious who fail to succeed .

Clubs: something more than what it seems

Go out to the disco On a Friday or Saturday afternoon, it can be presented as a simple plan between friends who gather to dance and drink some refreshments. But we must also be aware of what can be found.

We must not forget that some entrepreneurs in the fun industry have discovered, in adolescent boys and girls, an easy and wide market to place their products. Around this market, sub-markets have been forming as alternative, marginal or out-of-legality businesses. Many times these are related to the world of sex and drugs.

Sometimes, these places have been where for the first time the joint has been tried, for example. The place, in itself, will not offer this type of substances, but those interested in selling them know that there they will find a broad public to whom they can be made known. Something similar happens with alcohol, which despite being prohibited in many places, consumption occurs equally.

Another aspect that should be known is that in many discotheques aimed at young people there are usually spaces reserved for intimate encounters, usually in secluded rooms, where sofas are set in a warm light that encourages encounters.

The business of the invitations of the disco

On the other hand, the disco can become an obsession for children, not only as a way to have fun, but to be "someone" in front of others. Some kids, after frequenting a nightclub, agree to be the promoter of the place and distribute a good number of invitations among their colleagues. These are cheaper party promotions and tickets to attend. In return, they have the right not to pay the entrance fee. In this way they become the "trusted men" of the premises and, before their colleagues, they acquire a role that gives them importance.

Meanwhile, according to what themes our young people are far ahead of adults, according to other things, they are immature and irresponsible. When the weekend becomes an obsession, easily begin to lose the study habits and concern for getting good grades, the relationship with parents becomes sour and distant, and friends are the shelter to share secrets and contrast the experiences lived. On the other hand, there is an excessive concern with one's own image. Everything that has to do with the weekend is taken care of with care, while everything else is progressively parked.

What our children have to understand is that nightclubs can not be the only form of leisure they know. The discotheque, as an exclusive weekend plan obsesses, obstructs mental agility, atrophies physical abilities and ends up boring. You have to throw imagination and creativity to find different ways to have fun.
On the other hand, going sporadically to a known disco, which we have reported and we have seen the environment on its website, can be positive for its maturation and socialization process.

Pilar Guembe, coauthor of Do not tell my parents explains in relation to the clubs, that everything depends on the attitude and preparation of our children.There will be who will be more influenced and the disco will take to drift, but there will also be that boy or girl who has things clear, who knows what is there and who will not be manipulated, but will use the party room to have fun. healthy way

Clubs: 7 tips for parents

Before going to the disco, remember to talk with your children about these issues:

- Inform them about what can be found: alcohol outside and inside, drugs, boys or girls who ask for easy "roll" etc. Make a plan to know how to deal with these situations without causing unnecessary alarmism.
- Increase confidence by taking them to the disco. Take turns with parents.
- Always know where they go and where they are.
- See with them the money they need, what the entrance costs, if they are going to take a hamburger before etc.

After the disco, there are steps that you can not miss:

- Pick them up at the disco. In addition to monitoring the environment (even from a distance) and getting to know your friends, at that moment they will tell you what happened, if they had fun, the type of people inside, etc., is the best time to the talk.
- If they are picked up by other parents, as soon as you get home that you are excited for the first of all, tell you all their experiences.
- Always agree on a schedule of arrival. Negotiate your teen's night outings and establish a pact and sanctions for non-compliance.

Oscar A. Matías. Secondary Education Teacher

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