How to be more patient to better educate children
Sometimes, parents treat our young children waiting for a response or behavior more typical of adults. When speaking with them or demanding certain answers, we must remember that they are only a few years old and, therefore, they do not know well what responsibility is, respect for others, generosity, etc. With patience we will be the ones that we will channel in their development.
A very frequent mistake is to expect from our children a logic and an adult way of thinking. If what We want to be more patient to better educate our children, we can not assume that our young child knows perfectly what it is to live in society. An aggressive attitude does not get the child to learn something, but rather to put barriers to prevent this reaction.
How to foster our patience as parents?
To begin with, we must exercise patience with everyone we relate to, including ourselves. You have to be tolerant of the faults of others without missing charity, and help if necessary.
Reflecting before "throwing ourselves into the attack" will help us gradually acquire the patience we need. If we have to correct someone, let's try to find the opportune moment and if they surprise us with an impertinence, let us wait before to give a good answer. This patience is then extrapolated to the family environment.
How to avoid losing your nerves when it becomes unbearable?
When our child has a stubborn moment or is confronted with us, what can we do to not lose patience or nerves and dominate the situation? When we lose control, we can get to say horrible things to our son or even give him a slap, and that is something that we will surely regret later.
1. Ignore or be indifferent to negative behavior.
For example, in the case of tantrums. Instead of starting to scream like "what are you talking about, I can not stand you, you are a burden!", Try to take him to his room so that he cries at ease and if you can not give him more importance, better. Both he and you, try to ask forgiveness, and explain why it is silly to cry without stopping Do not forget that it is a frequent behavior in children of 2 to 3 years that you must educate.
2. Turn around and remove the look or attention until it rectifies.
Your four-year-old daughter just called you silly or stupid. The first time he insulted you, you explained that you should not call anyone like that, but not mom or dad. But he repeats it again. Instead of losing your nerves and giving him a slap, do not look at him again until he apologizes and tells you he's going to try hard not to repeat it again.
3. Apply the overcorrection technique
It consists in repairing what he has done, but in a somewhat exaggerated way: for example, a child throws a paper and must collect all the papers from the patio; he rages a chair, and he must stay to collect all the chairs of the class or house; She leaves her clothes on the floor and must spend the whole afternoon sorting out her wardrobe.
Conchita Requero
Advice: Eusebio Ferrer. Bachelor of Science in Information and Family Counselor
