10 tricks to be an effective mother
Reconciling all the tasks that a mother has to take care of is a complicated task, but not impossible. Especially if you have clear what are the priorities. To be an effective mother does not need to be perfect, or do many things, but it is essential to learn to value yourself with its defects and virtues.
Therefore, the first step to be an effective mother is to learn to accept and love yourself as is. Do not impress anyone, because it is shown that mothers who do not try to impress and do not compete are happier.
This is what he says Meg Meeker in his book "The 10 habits of happy mothers" where he emphasizes that if all mothers could understand our true value as women and as mothers our lives would never be the same again. We would get up every morning excited for the new day that begins. However, to achieve this assessment is necessary a bit of self-criticism and understand humility to value us.
10 tricks to be an effective mother
1. Strengthen the self-esteem of your children
Caring for children's self-esteem must be one of the main pillars in education, since it is a crucial point for the development of the youngest and the configuration of their personality. An effective mother will not allow thoughts to arise in her child's mind like "nobody loves me" or "I do not serve at all". On the contrary, it will make him see all the qualities and virtues that he has although, sometimes, he has to scold him with affection.
2. Your children are your priority
It is often difficult to reconcile work with family life. Do not miss the important dates. If it's your child's birthday, if you graduate or have a celebration at school, try to ask yourself for free. The same at home. If your child needs help at home with homework, leave for a moment what you are doing and pay attention to the problem that has arisen.
3. Give them love
A child that receives hugs, kisses and gestures of affection on the part of his mother will make him also be affectionate and have a greater facility to show his feelings and emotions with others.
4. Protect them protection
Protecting children is the main task of every mother. It has to cover all areas of your child's life: offer a good education, healthy foods, habits that improve their well-being * But we also have to ensure protection in other new areas such as the internet and everything it offers.
5. Play with them
Spend time playing with your children. This way you will know what their tastes and preferences are. Children will feel loved and important because their mother is enjoying them. It is also important that you invest time in being with your friends and that you can see them interact.
6. Teach them
Teaching often involves correcting. Do it in a delicate way, with tact, that the child understands that what is unacceptable is his behavior and not his own person.
7. Educate them in saving
It is important that children understand that things are achieved with effort. Therefore, do not buy everything they want, teach them to save the money. Go with your child to choose the piggy bank that he likes the most. In it you can put all the money that you and other people are giving you.
8. Love yourself
To love others first you have to love yourself. Love yourself as you are, with your faults and your virtues. Stop to think about all the good qualities you have, which are many, and try to reinforce and work those that cost you more. A self-confident mother with high self-esteem has greater chances of success and happiness.
9. Caring for good friendships
It is important to have a good circle of friends with whom you can have fun and share what worries you. Many of them will surely be mothers too, so it can be an opportunity to exchange opinions and advice about what is the best way to educate children. The friends are a source of love and understanding, so that mothers who have a good circle of friends feel happier.
10. Leave fear and anxiety aside
One of the concerns of every mother is not to reach everything. There are many tasks that must be attended and, sometimes, there is anguish and overwhelm. Given this, it is important that fear does not take hold of our reason and we ask ourselves a series of questions that help to break down those fears. Setting a series of priorities and writing them down on paper can also be a great help in controlling anxiety and knowing what to pay attention to first.
María Redondo
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