Energetic children: tips for relaxing in the family
The way they organizeenergetic children their activities (certain schedule details, etc.) can also contribute to a more or less calm life. It can also help to know how to say no to the imagination. When the energetic child finds himself doing something he must or has decided to do and he is assaulted by a creative thought that invites him to change his occupation, he should try to make an act of will and finish what he has in hand.
If what you had thought of is forgotten, it means that it was not so important or urgent, and if you remember it later, look in an orderly way for the moment and the way to do it with meaning.
The key to overcoming the inner tension that energetic children have is in abandonment, giving in to what is being done, putting all five senses and without thinking about other matters. In addition, this will help to put care in taking care of the details, without precipitation, or rush, or sloppiness.
For dads: how to eliminate and control emotional tension
Ways to eliminate emotional stress when we have energetic children:
1. Control breathing Before starting any activity you can make three deep breaths (without noise) releasing the air slowly. The child should notice that his belly is well inflated, that the air reaches the bottom, that he can no longer take in more air and then expel him slowly. The ideal is that the boy does not lose the habit that humans acquire instinctively at birth: breathing with the abdomen (seen in babies as they breathe inflating the belly). In this way, the cardiorespiratory rhythm is adapted to the characteristics of the activity that is intended to begin and one enters a state of relaxation.
2. Adjust muscle tone. If there is a state of muscular activation (typical of childhood and adolescence), to intensify the required state of calm it is convenient that the student is aware, for a moment, of his own body and tries to relax the muscles that do not need active: legs , abdomen, shoulder tension, and face. To do this, you must perform relaxation exercises releasing all your muscles.
3. Control the thought. It consists simply in cutting with what you have in your head and thinking about what you have to do at that moment. For this, an agenda, a programming sheet or similar is very useful.
For children: how to control the impulse of emotion
Energetic children are not hyperactive, they are also moved by an emotional-impulsive tendency. A slogan that must be well interpreted is "war on feeling".
For energetic children it is recommended that they know each other and avoid moving through the heart, trying to be more reflective. It is not a campaign against feeling, but against misuse, against the abuse of feeling. In our case, what we propose is less sentimentality and more objectivity.
The energetic boy has to put effort into knowing the pros and cons before doing something and once it is done, strive to finish it. It is important to get used to not abandoning a task that has been started without justification. From feeling we can make a great ally but for that it must be controlled.
Tips to relax when we have moved children
1. First of all, relax yourself (father and mother) and think you have an energetic child that does not stop. Therefore, do not lose your nerves. You can help him and he should also help you. Your child should know what moments of relaxation are good for him, for you and for the whole family.
2. As he is still small, you should help him relax. He must be aware that it is not a roll. It is also an activity, quieter, but an activity. Remember that they always have to be active. Surely let yourself be advised. Search with him for the fun side of breathing exercises and thought control.
3. Explain that you must master your impulsiveness. Nobody likes to have a brother or partner who does not know how to dominate his bad temper, his cry, or say something without thinking twice. Thinking before saying things is another activity, reflective, yes, but activity. The reflection of things is also fun.
4. You must seek, both the father and the mother, the most creative way and ordered to use their energies so that you do not waste them. Make a plan with different activities, which will make one after another.
5. When correcting you, you should not use violent words, strong, or that somehow impose fear, because they could even dissipate the valuable energies that are endowed, with the consequent upheaval of natural character. That's why, a lot of understanding. It needs discipline to be formed, but it must be discreet and constant, not monotonous, nor brutally maintained.
In order for your impromptu and sweeping activity to be effective and continuous, you need an order.To do this, it might be good to schedule a plan or a small schedule with him: what he is going to do in each moment, why, that he uses all his energies in his duties, in the game he is playing and that he does not start another thing, until the previous one has finished. In addition, he can use his enormous energy to help others, winning in the virtue of generosity: in housework, to fix things that have broken, playing or teaching new things to his brother etc.
Marisol Nuevo Espín
Advice: Luis Manuel Martínez Domínguez.Counselor of Los Olmos School
