5 questions that teenagers do not dare to perform

A teenager is taking the step to prepare for life. Your inner world is configured with its own personality. But there are many concerns and questions still unanswered. Often, they accept the authority of their parents and return to their room looking at the floor, without questioning. But in his interior they are fraguan questions that never dare to realize: Why me ...?

There are many questions that teenagers do not dare to ask. In some issues it is about giving time to time. But many times we will have to be the ones who throw a hook to our children, directly or indirectly. It is very convenient that those topics of conversation in which they walk a little lost and need guidance come to light and not crystallize, although they do not have excessive importance.


5 questions that adolescents prefer not to perform

1. Why do I have to study mathematics?

"... if my thing is the lyrics? The other day they put me a 9 and I've already become an engineer, and today, take !, a 2. Integral 3X2 + 2X-3 ... To the truncheon I'm going to leave the maths, mine is going to be Classical Philology. "

At this age there may be poor results in any subject, due to lack of foresight, lack of foresight, etc. Sometimes, you can accumulate a few bad grades and totally lose the hope of passing this course at the end of the course. To put it in a sporting phrase, he throws in the towel. Life is a sport, and you have to always excel.


In the courses in which they find themselves, they have to study everything, to form their intelligence, and thus choose the most appropriate option in the future. Even if they have decided that they want to be classical philologists, they would have an incomplete education without the rudiments of mathematics and the logic of this subject.

You will have to listen to their comments and take them out from time to time in the conversation. We will have to give encouragement, offer our help and instill hope. In addition, a little requirement would be advisable, especially when it comes to showing that in this life nothing is achieved without effort and doing what we do not like has a double value, because it strengthens the will in addition to the intelligence.

2. Why do not you let me return at the same time as ...?

"My brother is very late, and I am at eleven at home, all my friends are amazed when I tell them that I have to go, I'm sure Miguel does not get that."


It is possible that, if you have older siblings, you want to emulate the actions of those who precede you, especially because the older ones, you know, are always ahead of the pack, in the front line. And the rest just have to get behind and let go. But our actions and our decisions should not be influenced by the degree of responsibility of the elder, but of what each specific child is earning.

To do this, you must take advantage of one of your questions on Fridays or Saturdays to start a conversation and let them know that the arrival time has to be delayed with age, since the development of their freedom and responsibility also goes increase over the years. Everyone has their own time and it is not a grievance or a punishment for being a teenager.

3. How much will mom and dad earn?

"Maybe I've been asking for pasta for Fridays and that's why they stayed for extra hours over the weekend, well, I'd rather not worry, I'm not going to turn off the tap."

Our son is not aware at times of how the family economy works. Therefore, it may be necessary to "fall from the cherry". Maybe he has no idea about the years it took us to buy the apartment and the demands he made on us; Maybe he does not know anything about that credit that we still have pending.

Although our economy is going well, we will have to take advantage of the boy's or girl's money requests to let him know that you can not waste what you get with many hours of work and, therefore, sometimes be cerebral when it comes to expenses. . We will have to make our son or daughter aware, showing them the expenses we have, that we do not earn enough to go around making absurd, frivolous or capricious expenses.

4. Why can not I go see that movie?

"If I'm older ... My parents are living in the past and they do not find out what's in. They're like a carcas ... Maybe they'll let me see" How beautiful it is to live! "This Christmas ... "

Cinema and television are media. They offer a certain image of life, of society. In short, a lifestyle that may not be consistent with the most successful educational models.

There are inconvenient movies that are harmful to them. We will have to know what movie they will see and calmly explain the objections they offer if we consider that they should not see it. Sometimes we will have to assert our authority if we have learned that the film is clearly deselecting.

5. Why do I have to help at home?

"My brother...Let him manage by himself, as I did! I'm fed up: Javi, help him with math; Javi, help him keep his clothes; Javi, take out the dishwasher together ... Ugh, how exhausting! "

Sometimes you will want to enjoy a well-deserved rest and help your little brother will not be the most pleasant. Let's not miss the opportunity of one of his refusals to explain the importance of family relationships and to fulfill the family duties of each one.

A good way will be to ask them what they want to be in the future. We will discover that he has his noble desires. That is why we have to tell him that his younger brother must also go far. And over the years he will be proud to see that his little brother has come far, partly thanks to him.

Tips to answer those questions

1. The time will come to decide between sciences or letters or choose a career or profession. But to prepare for that decision they must continue to bet on everything until the time comes for them to choose.

2. As the years go by, our child's arrival time will be delayed. But meanwhile, we must maintain the same line of conduct as other children go through different ages. If we neglect the older one, the next ones will demand the same treatment at that age.

3. Although it is not good for children to become obsessed with money, we will have to show them what life costs, and encourage them to save, for example, at home: with electricity, water, telephone, etc. Sometimes it can be interesting to show some bills that reach us with an overwhelming face, so that our children realize what it costs to earn their bread.

4. We will have to be attentive to the television program that our children see. The best thing for this will be that we ourselves are responsible in this matter: changing the channel due to the appearance of inconvenient scenes is much more useful than sending the children to bed.

5. A great help when it comes to demanding our children to help their little brothers, will be to lead by example. If we are the first to help the little ones in the tasks of the school, for example, it will be much easier to make the elders responsible for moving the family forward.

We take advantage of any occasion in which, even indirectly, some of these topics come out to chat with our son peacefully. It is preferable not to do it in hot, so as not to provoke anger: wait until the situation has calmed down and our son is happy for any reason to get back the thread of what we had previously sentenced categorically, giving it a spin and thus be able to reason it so that he understands it clearly.

Gonzalo Niederleytner

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