Types of child abuse to parents
Many frightened mothers, quiet, (also parents) suffer in silence the tyranny of children of 6 years, 8, 10 and more. Nowadays, There are many more cases of stalking children than you can imagine. Consensual children, without awareness of the limits, who organize family life, give orders to their parents and blackmail anyone who tries to stop them. They are tyrannical and intolerant children, a growing evil.
What should not be allowed to children?
Javier Urra, specialist psychologist in Clinic, Pedagogue and Therapist, comments that "if at this age the parents consent to whims, answers, bad manners, impositions, because you are tired, because you do not give much importance, because" it is not so much, it is still small ", or because you are afraid that" you take a trauma "if you correct him seriously, you are wrong if you think that he will" tame "when he is older".
"With this attitude you are" helping "him to be an aggressive, violent and abusive teenager both towards his parents, as well as towards his brothers, guardians and companions, in short, he will become a challenging son who will end up imposing his own law, and what is worse, will not be happy, "says the psychologist.
"In the Minors' Offices, terrible cases arrive one after the other, from those who can not with their son and who are only 5 years old, to whom they receive a punch from a 17-year-old man who argues that he needed to talk on the phone and" his old woman " I was using it ... Dramatic facts that do not occur in the gypsy ethnic group and little in the low socioeconomic levels, because there is a greater sense of respect, "says Javier Urra, author of the book The little dictator, when the parents are the victims.
"How are we going to put an end to gender violence if today a 15-year-old boy shouts at his mother and insults her if he raises her hand? Where is the father?" Says Urra.
Educational mistakes of parents
For Javier Urra, eThis pathology has its origin, not in the genes, but in educational errors, although to reassure society, affirms that "most families work well."
"There are children of seven years and younger who kick their mothers, and they tell them: that is not done, while they smile, or they throw the sandwich they have prepared on the floor and they buy them a muffin. We have all suffered and we are unbearable because of parents who do not put an end to their excesses, "says Javier Urra, a psychologist specialist in Clinic, Pedagogue and Therapist.
For Javier Urra, it is obvious thate has passed from an education of respect, almost afraid of the father, the teacher, the bus driver, or the police, to a lack of limits, where some children want to impose their law of the demand, of the bravado.
Types of child abuse to parents or educators
1. Children who want to impose their wishes and parents never say no, nor know how to impose rules.
2. Aggressive children who want to impose their idea or desire by force.
3. Children who do not have acquired basic standards of food, sleep, rest and order.
4. Children looking to cause harm and / or permanent discomfort.
5. Children who shirk responsibilities, blaming others for their mistakes.
6. Children who use parents: as if they were parents in "usufruct" or as "ATMs", blackmailing them and making them partners in their "tricks".
7. Children who get angry, easily offended or annoyed.
8. Children who argue with adults.
9. Children who are often spiteful.
Do not succumb to blackmail
"Son drink, as long as you shut up ..." Succumb to the whims of the children as long as they keep quiet, let them watch a television program as long as they shut up, let them interrupt an adult conversation with If you are silent, it is not the right way to make your child a person of integrity. It is true that sometimes you feel very tired and all you want is to be quiet. But before succumbing, remember that you need limits, so that it does not happen what the saying goes: CRÍ CUERVOS ...
Patricia Palacios
Adviser: Javier Urra. Psychologist Specialist in Clinic. Pedagogue and Therapist. UNICEF Advisor and First Child Advocate.
