New Year's resolutions, why do not we meet them?
With the arrival of New Year, take stock of what we have done during the year and plan our purposes for the coming year. Every year we are many who propose a list of purposes to achieve. The entry into a new year is a new cycle and we see ourselves with energy to program and plan. But why do many of them stay by the way and throw in the towel?
The lists of good intentions are long and disparate: learning a language, quitting smoking, signing up for the gym, saving, etc ... However, even if we start the year with a disposition towards our purposes we are not always constant with them, we usually abandon our plans after a few months. Posing purposes is something positive since it helps us to improve and advance. Getting them is possible, we just need a good plan toit.
New Year's resolutions
A purpose is an intention, an objective to fulfill. Every year it is normal for all of us to propose new goals to achieve. The entry into a new year, is a date that marks in itself a start and at the same time an end. The New Year means closing a stage, a year and opening a new stage in the new year. It is like opening a new chapter in a book, and in this new beginning, we feel with a new opportunity to do everything we did not do before or to fix or change what we can.
Why do we make resolutions in the New Year?
Making purposes is something positive, something good that can be used to make a personal reflection: where I am, what I want, what I do not want, where I want to go, how I can do it.
The purpose is an opportunity for development based on reflection on the current moment, what we have done in the past and what we want in the present. The human being is a being immersed in a process of constant and continuous development that extends throughout life, it is therefore natural for the person to propose changes and develop.
Why do not we fulfill New Year's resolutions?
Although we always make intentions and be good for people, it happens that our New Year's resolutions are not always fulfilled. Normally, we start very motivated and with a lot of energy, but little by little we lose interest and abandon, not the purpose but what we have to do to achieve it. Why is this happening to us?
1. We do not fulfill our purposes when we set ourselves goals that are too ambitious in terms of time and achievements. For example, if I intend to lose some weight, I can not pretend to lose 5 kg in a week, instead I can lose 1 kg in a month. It is about proposing long-term goals with goals that we can achieve in the short term, but that in the long term are important challenges.
2. We tend to think that it is enough to propose it to achieve it. Indeed the first step is to propose it, but every purpose must be accompanied by effort and dedication. All development supposes a personal effort.
3. We are often impatient with the results. It is important to have patience and know that things come slowly, learn to enjoy the process and take it as a learning.
Celia Rodríguez Ruiz. Clinical health psychologist. Specialist in pedagogy and child and youth psychology. Director of Educa and Aprende. Author of the collection Stimulate Reading and Writing Processes.
