The Magi, how to tell the secret without losing the magic
When Christmas arrives, children look forward to the arrival of the Three Kings of the Orient. As our children grow up, parents must be the first to correctly explain the magic of Christmas so that the illusion is not lost.
Parents must be aware of how to reveal the secret and choose the right time by drawing a strategy. These are some tips to explain to children the History of the Magi, and how to tell the secret without losing the magic, using the propitious means to tell the children the truth of Christmas.
The truth of the Magi: the propitious moment
The most appropriate time to tell children who the children are wise men it is fixed, in general terms, at the age of eight. However, as usually happens with all the issues related to the education of the minor, it must be taken into account that the processes of evolution and development are different in each child. Some mature later than others and this is something that should always be respected. The worry of the parents runs parallel to the illusion of the children and the sadness of one and the other can be equated when things are done wrong by "telling them the truth". How do we avoid it?
Tips to tell you the truth of the Magi
The first thing that experts recommend to keep in mind when revealing the secret of the Magi is that it is worth more a year before a few minutes later. This means that if we anticipate that they will find out about this great secret in school, it is best that we get ahead. With this, what we get is that the children trust us because they see that we treat them as equals. They check that we tell them things about the elderly. At the age of eight, our children are already in third year of primary school, so it is convenient that in the second they are letting go that a new cycle begins and that they will stop being children. Thus, among the things that we will have to tell you during the third year will be:
- The mystery of the tooth fairy
- The secret of the Magi
- The theme of sexuality
When children find out about this type of home, they inevitably feel that their parents have betrayed them. It is thus demonstrated that the anticipated explanations that we can give them will make them trust a little more in us. Do not forget that this aspect is key in the face of adolescence. Mutual trust has to be established before that moment has arrived.
Avoid breaking the magic by telling them the truth of the Magi
The "how" is also very important. You can not let the story blow loose. You have to tell them that the Baby Jesus and the Magi They existed, but that was a long time ago. We will also tell you that when the Majesties of the Orient gave the newborn baby, he was so happy that the decision was made that all the children of the world receive a gift for Christmas. Since the Magi are gone, who better than dad and mom to take care of this task?
The truth softens a lot in this way and so we get them to have no illusion for making your letter, for going to the cavalcade or for going to bed soon on this magical night. Your anger is a logical risk but we can avoid it to a large extent if we ask you to keep the secret. We make them our collaborators and we explain to them that surely there are many children of their class who do not know it yet. It is important that we remind them of this because if they do not go to school with the story and many collectors lose the illusion of the arrival of the Magi before their parents even want them to stop believing. We will explain that those who have to choose when to tell are the parents of each one and that they are now guardians of our secret. It works very well that of "we trust in your maturity".
Children of different ages: each one at a time
If we have several children, we will have to respect the times. The easy way would be to tell everyone at once but if they have different ages we have to understand that this is not entirely fair.
If the previous step, that of trusting in the maturity of the little one, has been transmitted to him effectively, it will be easy for him to keep the secret and not say anything to his little brothers. Although it is true that it is more complicated to keep the mystery with a brother than with a partner because the child knows that for his brother is an example to follow and wants to tell everything he knows to increase that sense of superiority.
All our children have the right to enjoy the same time of illusion. If for the older we chose the eight years, so it will also be for the others. Telling things with careful attention and elaborate consistency, with humanity, clarity and coherence, we achieve that they understand us and that they wish with impatience to be in possession of a secret to keep.
And if they have already told you the truth of the Magi
If they have overtaken us, we do not have to be alarmed. We will reassure our children by taking it with humor.We can not deny it because they will think that we lie to them. We will sit down with them and we will talk. We will approach the subject normally and we will invite you to participate with us in the mystery of Christmas.
Elisa García
