How to learn to disconnect
The current rhythm of life requires us to spend many hours awaiting the innumerable occupations and worries of everyday life. This makes our mind is constantly active, spinning some, or many things. How to learn to disconnect? The activity of the mind usually extends to our free time and prevents us from disconnecting.
When we do not disconnect, we enter a state of intense and persistent activation that generates tension and discomfort, and therefore is not good for our health. Disconnecting is necessary for people, taking moments, and even days off, allows us to move away so we can focus on ourselves and to be able to take it back from another perspective and more rested.
Why is it difficult for us to disconnect?
We can believe that disconnecting is something simple, however there are many people who have real difficulties to disconnect. Why is it difficult for us to disconnect?
When we carry a very high rhythm, and there are many things that occupy our head, we accustom the mind to be in action in a constant and persistent way.
Our mind gets used to working beyond its possibilities, becoming the habit or habit that guides its operation. We tend to want to solve it as soon as possible, when this is not the case, thoughts about how to solve certain things flood our mind.
The thing gets worse when we add an emotional charge, which arises on the one hand from the uncertainty of not knowing how to solve something, before the doubt "what happens if we fail?" and on the other hand before the requirement of having a deadline to solve it, which generates stress. When we add the emotional charge to the disconnection we enter into a complicated dynamic with serious consequences.
Consequences of not disconnecting in our free time
When we do not let our mind disconnect and take a break, we can have serious consequences that affect our physical and mental health and our functioning and performance.
- The mind needs rest to be able to function well. If we do not disconnect our performance will be less, and we will get the opposite effect.
- Impact on health: headache, stomach, insomnia, muscle aches, etc.
- High level of frustration and personal dissatisfaction since the balance between work and enjoyment is not achieved.
- High levels of stress.
- Exhaustion and lack of rest.
- Interpersonal relationships are impaired. There is no time or space for the people around us.
- Limited vision of reality caused by an obsession with worries that does not let us go further.
- Constant bad mood.
- Vacuum sensation, discomfort and loneliness.
10 keys to disconnect in our free time
Learning to disconnect is a necessity, it is about creating a healthy habit and dedicating time to oneself, leaving other worries aside. Forgetting work is healthy for people, it is essential to achieve balance.
1. Develop your hobbies, It is essential to occupy the mind in other things that interest and complete us. Try putting one day a week or several to do those hobbies that get your attention.
2. Learn to relativize the concerns. You can use thinking strategies: think that it will be important in a few years for you, you will see how your loved ones and yourself are the most important, etc.
3. Cultivate your social circle and talk with other people. Do not center the conversation on your work topics, listen and try to talk about other things.
4. Devote time to relax, to do nothing. Try listening to music, reading, watching a movie, taking a bath, etc ... the important thing is that you do not think about anything.
5. Try to do physical exercise. It is not necessary to make a hard effort, it is enough to walk, etc.
6. Set a schedule and do not work from one hour at home.
7. When you go on vacation, try to leave work at home. Remember the holidays are for rest and nothing is really urgent.
8. Take care of yourself and treat yourself, a massage, your favorite dessert, buy something, etc.
9. Prioritize your occupations. Not all occupations or concerns are equally important. If we organize our day to day and establish priorities we will obtain amazing results. It is about pointing out those tasks that are really important for today, in this way we delimit our concerns and make a gap in our priorities to those other non-work occupations: oneself, family, friendships, etc.
10. Do not forget who you are when you are not working
Celia Rodríguez Ruiz. Clinical health psychologist. Specialist in pedagogy and child and youth psychology. Director of Educa and Learn.Autora of the collection Stimulate Reading and Writing Processes.