Tutorials, how to get more out of personalized education
The tutorial it is a personal interview between the parents and the child's teacher-tutor. The role of tutorials is to carry out a personalized education, analyzing that child in particular: how is it, what are its potentialities, its problems and its capabilities. The goal is for both parents and guardians to agree on the best way to help the child.
The tutorials are the interviews in which the teacher and the parents of the student are cited, as well as the one that the teacher fixes with the child. In both cases, the central figure is the student and it is pursued to know what he needs at that moment and how to enhance all the capacities that he has inside.
In Primary Education, it is important to get fluency and trust between the parents and the tutor, in order to help the child get the best out of him in a holistic way, that is, from the academic, personal, human and spiritual point of view. If this good relationship is achieved and the child has also felt heard and understood, we will have reaped an essential basis to prevent and solve conflicts, rebellions and problems that later, in Secondary, will come.
Teacher and student face to face in the tutorials
The personalized tutorials are also given between the teacher and the student. It is a friendly talk, full of confidence, which is also intended to help the student to be a better person. Each teacher looks at the student individually, gives him an opportunity, does not stay with a fixed vision of what "others have commented on him", nor prejudges him.
The best tutor is the one who teaches the student to think, to awaken intellectual curiosity in him. The tutor will help the child awaken in responsibility and learn to be who he is truly called to be. The student has to perceive love and commitment on the part of the teacher. A true teacher always tends to enhance the originality of each of his students.
10 keys to do a good tutoring
1. Keep the interview prepared. Both the parents and the teacher must have thought about the issues they want to discuss about the child, what they are worried about and the ways to help them more and better.
2. Parents must go together. It is convenient that both of them go to the tutoring, both the father and the mother, in order to better trace the master lines of education.
3. It is the teacher who should listen to the parents first, since it educates according to their criteria.
4. The tutor must listen, suggest, guide and never impose. You should never say phrases like: "what you have to do is this or that". Nor can parents impose the teacher, which is different from demanding.
5. The tutorials must be discreet. There are intimate things that should not or do not have to transcend. It is positive that the tutor knows that they are living a complicated situation at home (a possible separation, serious illness ...), but the parents are the owners of telling what they want or not. If the teacher knows a problematic family situation because the child has told him, he should be discreet when transmitting it to his parents.
6. The tutoráis must be short and concrete. We talk about specific and practical things, which does not mean cold and superficial. They should be done without haste and without hassles.
7. Interrogatories must be ruled out. The incisive questions do not favor the communication of both the parents to the teacher and vice versa.
8. Parents can not take a defensive attitude either. If the tutor observes, for example, that the child is very impulsive, the parents can not say: "Impulsive, you're wrong, it's home is very serene." You have to listen with confidence to the tutor and vice versa.
9. There must be a climate of mutual trust. Parents have to be sure that the teacher wants the best for their child, and if it is not and they do not perceive that attitude on the part of the teacher, transmit it to the school.
10. Never finish an interview without having specified a goal. Both the teacher and parents have to know what things will work with the child to improve their performance, their habits and their virtues for a set period of time that has been established.
6 tips for parents before tutorials
1. Periodicity. Before the first notes arrive, take the initiative and go ahead and ask for a tutoring. A reasonable guideline is to do one or two interviews per quarter.
2. Topics to be discussed. In the tutorials with the teacher of Primary Education, not only have to talk about how it goes in mathematics, reading or comprehension, but also habits, effort and virtues.
3. Strengths and weaknesses. It is always better to talk to the tutor, first, about the good things about your child, about their strengths, and then about their weakest points. We must rely on the strong to improve the weak.
4. Important courses. The last two years of Primary are vital to strengthen these tutorials, to establish more trust with the tutor and to work with him more ambitious goals, in order to strengthen their habits that will falter in Secondary.
5. Level of satisfaction. If at some point you "expected" more from the tutoring and you have not been satisfied in that interview with the teacher, talk to the assistant principal or the school principal. There are very qualified teachers, but sometimes, they do not understand the student, nor do they have an integral vision of him.
6. Student participation. After tutoring with the teacher, you have to talk to your child about what you agreed to in that interview.
Advisor: Carmen Lomas. Expert in Education for the Promotion of Teaching Centers.