Many parents do not consider educating until Primary. And they are late
It is released in the world of informative literature but it is aeducation expert. They support her twenty years as a teacher and three children. Now he has wanted to put in prose his experiences in La profe responds (Word), knowing that there are no magical recipes, but manytricks that parents can use before the doubts that arise in the day to day with our children.
He mentions in his book that we can educate from the cradle. Does everything we do in education really have its reflection in adulthood?
I think so. If we start from the cradle, for example, with habits of order, of sleep, those habits are affecting other aspects as they grow. If you start from birth, it is much easier. Some parents think that, as they see them very small, in the Infant stage what they have to do is play. And until Primary they do not consider starting to educate them. Well, they're late.
Are we aware of the harm we are doing to children if we leave them without rules because of poorly understood freedom?
There are many parents obsessed with allowing them everything, not to suffer, not to cry, to be free, to express themselves ... And they want it to be that way until they reach the Primary stage, more serious, with duties, where they will be given the batteries. That is a big mistake because the child is forging a temper, a way of being that then costs more to correct when they grow up.
And yet, when they get to Primary, it seems that many parents enter into a kind of competition for having the cleverest child. Do they generate that competitiveness and transfer it to children?
Sometimes yes, and especially in Primary children. Children do not realize, they are happy with their surroundings, they value the next door when they have done something right. But they are not so competitive. It is the parents who are more concerned and generate that competitiveness with phrases such as "what notes has the other taken?" or "how many goals has your team-mate made in this match?" Many want their son to be number one, the one who stands out in everything. And if not, they do their best to highlight, to raise their child.
Sometimes, our children are not what we expected them to be ... How should we face it?
It is true that many times we project on our children what we would like to have been or what we would like them to achieve. You have to accept the children as they are. We have to know that they are the best children we have, because they are ours, the fruit of our love. And encourage them very much. In what more it costs to them it will be necessary to help them more, not to facilitate the way to them, but to support them. Unfortunately, there are parents who fall apart when they discover that their children do not get where they wanted and instead of encouraging them, they sink more.
María Solano Altaba
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