The autonomy of children, their secrets and objectives
The secret of the autonomy of children it is nothing more than the repetition of acts every day and the confidence you give them, that they are capable of doing what they propose. It is very important to promote this new autonomy. Not only will it mature, it will also develop fields as vital as coordination or motor skills.
As Montessori, famous pedagogue, said, "all children have an absorbing mind, go through sensitive periods, want to learn, do it through play / work, go through different stages of development and want to be independent."
With two years, children can start to be autonomous, that is, your child can start to put on and take off his shirt and socks by himself. This will be your first step within many others, which will lead you to total independence. By the age of three he must be able to dress and undress "at his own pace".
Objective of autonomy: doing things by myself
At two or three years your child is in the sensitive learning period, entering an age in which you need more independence and autonomy. He is able to perform new activities, or save small difficulties, which previously resisted him.
For this reason, you should avoid being a brake on your child, since autonomy has different degrees, depending on their age. If the child wants to dress himself, it is best to first teach him how to do it, explaining what it is for, and then patience, do not forget that he needs his time. The first days will take hours, and then do it much faster, thus acquiring new skills gradually.
Therefore, it is vital that at this stage parents and adults in charge of the child, you seek the maximum autonomy and confidence, because they are able to do many of their daily tasks alone.
Trust your son to stimulate his autonomy
The child who wants to learn, and they prevent it, ends up believing that he is incapable of doing things by himself. This failure usually leads to laziness and vaguería. Every time you help your child, doing what he could perfectly do, you are stopping or diverting his development. Any father does it with the best of his intentions, but unintentionally prevents his progress.
At these ages, the role of adults should not be that of controlling parents, but that of stimulating and positive parents. For your child to improve in personal autonomy, you must praise and value every small achievement you achieve. So, in his eagerness to please dad and mom, he will not hesitate to try everything he can on a daily basis.
Enhances your autonomy and allows you to enjoy learning
If you want your child's learning to be really effective, you should surround him with an atmosphere of serenity and joy, so he can enjoy learning. The goals that you propose have to be adequate with your physical and intellectual development. You can start working your gross motor (articulates different muscles), going up and down stairs, to go little by little knowing your limitations and physical possibilities, developing your motor skills to the maximum. Remember that this stage is the best time for children to learn, because of the sponginess of their brain and because they want to learn. This is the reason why early stimulation is given so much importance in these ages.
Tips to stimulate the autonomy of children
- All children learn at their own pace. Never force your child, suggest something, until he shows interest and wants to try. Then give him the freedom to do it alone. Do not go ahead, because you will insinuate that he really can not.
- You must propose activities that are initially very simple, so that you feel that you are successful from the beginning: for example, folding a napkin can be done perfectly by a two-year-old child. You will be reinforcing your self-esteem and encouraging you to participate in the tasks of your home.
- When you do an activity with your child, take the opportunity to explain all the possible details. You can improve your learning a lot and learn the words that correspond to your activities.
- Take advantage of the moment of the bath. Make soap bubbles and show how the reflections are different on the curved surface of the bubbles and how you can sometimes see the colors of the rainbow on them.
- Encourage your child to gradually help you in all tasks of the house: sweeping the kitchen, passing the cloth to the furniture, arranging the cushions in the living room, carrying the dirty clothes to the basket (even if it is dragged through the house), etc. At first, you will go much slower than if you did it alone, but in the long run it will have been worth it.