The personality crisis of children of 6 years
Experts say that at 6 years, children suffer a crisis, and that most likely, it will be the same as experience at 12 and 40. Yes, we parents can contribute to the famous "crisis of personality of the 6 years "do not be so radical in expressing your emotions and attitudes.
This manifests the personality crisis of 6-year-old children
First of all, it is important to keep in mind three fundamental ideas: patience, demand and affection. what is happening ¡
- It is revealed to impose his will on the will of others.
- He does not accept authority.
- Laugh and cry until losing control.
- There is no one who understands their exits. It behaves capriciously.
- The child feels disoriented and uncomfortable, that is why it reacts disproportionately and almost always between the two extremes of whatever it may be.
- It is not reflective, the alternatives overwhelm him and he is not capable of deciding.
- Your answer to almost any requirement will be "no".
- Challenging attitude. It is not a germ of a negative attitude, and even if it bothers you, it is a step ahead of your character. Let's not lose sight of him.
- Men usually go to the state of "do not stop", activism grows.
Why the crisis of 6 years and how to treat children
The reactions of the crisis of maturity have their origin in the accelerated development of the nervous system, before which the child reacts with his whole body through the whole spectrum of emotions. Their reactions have to be interpreted as symptoms of their growth, which we will have to orient properly.
For that reason, it is better to understand their situation and try to suffer from this lack of security by offering support points, rituals that are repeated every day, like the good morning kiss, to receive you with a snack at the table, to see you at home. the same hours ...
It is essential to respect their desire for intimacy, take advantage of the moments in which they want to talk, interest them in reading and other activities that require concentration.
You will know that your son has finished his crisis when you notice a quieting of his attitude. The child will become more introverted and undoubtedly much more mature the more effort, patience and affection we have put in him during times of crisis.
Before the crisis of the 6 years, remember that ...
1. A way to guide activism Own 6 years for example is to encourage you to play sports or play games that develop their muscles or their creativity.
2. The punishment for your tantrums It is the worst solution, because it will be angry and may lose control. It is more effective patience. If we have to fight him we will do it with sincerity and calmly. And if we can not because our nerves can, I advise you to go to your room, wait for the right time, and leave with better spirit.
Factors that aggravate the crisis of the 6 years of children
Although this instability is frequent at six years, there are children who do not suffer so drastically. On the other hand, others reveal themselves in a much more radical way. Some factors that predispose to this situation is aggravated are the following:
1. In the child: They are of difficult temperament, they have insecurity, low self-esteem, impulsiveness, evolutionary difficulties. We have not been able to educate these errors.
2. In the family: there is a continuous family stress, an attachment of your insecure child, lack of family networks, lack of intimate time with your parents, pessimistic or fearful educational style, anxiety.
3. With friends: rejection of their peers, problematic friends.
4. At school: difficulty adjusting to the school environment, poor academic performance, difficulties in performing extra-academic activities. It usually coincides with the step from Infant Education to Primary and sometimes, with a change of school, pavilion and educational style. They happen to be the older ones of Infantile to the small ones of primary.
5. Family-school connection: lack of this contact, parents who do not know the friends of their children, values, expectations and aspirations in clear opposition to the school and other classmates.
Factors of protection against the crisis of the 6 years
In our hands is to contribute, through patience, affection, explanation, and certain rules that our son came to six years more "quiet".
1. In the child: easy temperament, good self-esteem and disposition for social relationships. Absence of evolutionary difficulties.
2. In the family: structured environment, secure attachment, good network of family support, intimate time with parents, affection, balance, optimistic and cheerful parents, sense of humor.
3. With friends: good friends, stable and reciprocal, loved by their companions.
4. At school: good adjustment in the school environment, good academic performance, good skills in some extracurricular activity.
5. Family-school connection: the family knows and maintains a close relationship with the teachers and friends of their child, a system of values similar to the school and one that predominates among their peers.
Tips for thinking and acting in the face of the 6-year-old children's crisis
- Meets a basic schedule, some marked routines. This will give you security.
- Take the time to go to bed to teach him to reflect. Creating a habit of confidence will then be invaluable. Start telling you things of yours. It is also positive that you begin to create an interest in reading.
- Try to spend more time with your older brother if you have it; I do activities with him. Give responsibilities to your little brother.
- Still needing a lot of affection, that you fill him with kisses and caresses. If you ever reject them, respect their privacy and try again when there are no witnesses.
In many occasions it is difficult to keep the spirit calm. It gets on your nerves and you can not have patience. But always remember, that the tension and the screams do not lead anywhere. Do not worry about giving in what is not essential and do not let yourself go when it becomes unbearable. If it gets capricious, start whining or challenging, leave the rule very clear, ignore it, sing a song and do not let it fail to do what you have forced it to do. If it gets screechy, it's better to sit in a corner until it calms down.
Maite Mijancos. Director of the European Institute of Education Studies.
