The eyes of the children are educated: the eyes, the mirror of the soul
Discard the idea that education only has to do with the behavior of your child. Although it may seem abstract, the look is also educated, because with it your son will be reflecting his personality. "Educar el mirada is to help the adolescent to consciously situate himself in reality"explains the sociologist Cesar García-Rincón.
Teens see things as they are
The Doctor in Sociology Cesar García-Rincón, who has spent more than 15 years dedicated to the training of adolescents in the field of solidarity and volunteering, states in his book Educate the look, architecture of a caring mind, of Ediciones Nancea, that "we do not see things as they are, but as we are, we internalize the world and externalize ourselves in it from our own personal interpretation of that world.
Adolescents are in a stage of constant observation and need for self-affirmation. Because, they see things as they areand it is necessary that help with different tools to overcome the obstacles and perceptive distortions, either those of human nature or those imposed through stereotypes.
In addition, we must make reflection to our children to notice how they look, what they look at, what messages they transmit when they look ... As we said, in the face, in the look, our character is reflected, our emotions are transmitted, joy, surprise, fear, fury , sadness, contempt, disgust, naturalness, dissimulation, deceit, sincerity etc.
How to identify the situation of a teenager through his gaze
Just as eye movements can transmit attitudes and feelings, they also express personality, and can help you decipher the emotional state of your teenager:
1. Those who look straight with humility, they express respect towards the other and courage, they are willing to listen.
2. If they bend or deviate the look can be or is very shy (something that must be educated too) or that hides something.
3. If you try to avoid your look or others may be disturbed or disgusted.
4. Children who watch a lot, in excess, they tend to be the most loving, who have more need of affection.
5. If your son has a defiant look you should know that it is about "self-affirming". Explain that all he does is make the other uncomfortable and that he can not challenge the authority of a father or teacher with a cocky look.
Teens learn from their parents' eyes
Not everything is to educate the children's gaze, also you must reflect on how you look at them. The example It is the best tool. It is different to look with an attitude of intimidatory domination, than a warm look that reflects at the same time authority. It is different to look at him, trusting him, than thinking that it is a disaster. Look at him with affection and understanding and they will learn from you.
Ana Aznar
Adviser: César García-Rincón. Doctor in Sociology.
