The fashion of good education in the family

Teaching children good education is not easy because most of their rules are not in the books and depends, to a great extent, on common sense. To achieve this, it is important to put yourself in the place of others and teach empathy to children, seasoned with certain doses of self-control, especially in bad times, for example, when we are angry. Both virtues are essential to be able to teach the basis of good education to children, since they are very young.

Good education is taught by example

There are many people who at any small setback, most of the time without the slightest importance, react very aggressively, especially verbally and even physically. Today young people are criticized a lot and their behavior; but sometimes, it would be necessary to have a hidden camera and be able to teach the not so young adults' own behavior and the bad example given to them. It is not uncommon to see adults who tell the children with a peeled cry that ... one should not shout, that one should not hit ... while being slapped. That you should not smoke, while holding a cigarette in your hands, that you should not drink alcohol, while drinking a glass of beer, etc.

Many adults show bad manners and are not exactly an example they can follow. It seems that asking for forgiveness and recognizing mistakes is a sign of weakness for many adults, and as a result, they can show an excessive pride that is an ominous example for children and young people.

How and when to be educated

- Empathy. A good way to know how and when to be educated is simply to put yourself in the place of others. I like to be thanked, and that they smile at me when they see me, and that they ask me for things please? And that they listen to me and look at me when I speak?

- Good manners. Nor should we obsess about showing good manners so that we end up looking like repellents. There is always a time when it is appropriate to have a good education, but we should not be looking for it continuously.

- Good manners. If we believe that we need to learn good manners and do not know where to start, in the market there are very varied books on good manners that will be very useful. You just have to go to the nearest bookstore to your house and take a look to see which one convinces you the most.

- Good deal. If it is another person who treats you in bad ways, try not to fall into the same error as her by answering in the same way. It would be a way to let the others control you, to set the tone of the conversations. Also, you have an opportunity to show your good education, and that can be a help for the other person.

- Ask for forgiveness. If we are ever aware of being rude to someone or have been hostile because we were tired and have behaved badly, the solution is simple: asking for forgiveness or apologies will restore our gaffe. Asking for forgiveness is not a symptom of weakness, but it is liberating and a sign of good education, so do not hesitate to put it into practice if necessary.

Conchita Requero
Adviser: Alex J. Packer. Educator and psychologist