Managing children: guidelines to educate better
The initiative Managing children has brought together speakers of the highest level in the world of education and business to share their knowledge with more than 700 attendees who wanted to know more to better educate their children in a day full of enthusiasm, emotion and practical advice for parents, mothers, teachers and experts in education.
Currently, parents pay more attention to issues related to the education of their children, we prepare and we train more. Leo Farache, responsible for Educate is everything and promoter of the meeting Managing children He explains that "until now it was educated by inertia, but a greater awareness of the implications of education is being taken and a different perspective is opened".
This is the positive aspect of the new attitude of parents, committed to their task as educators. The negative aspect lies in the danger of overprotection. To avoid this and other risks, the team Educate is everything is launching an Internet portal that will be released in the fall of 2015, in which they will give clues to parents, inspiration, to help educate better.
The speakers: ideas of the highest level in Early Childhood Education
María Jesús Álava Psychologist
A superprotected child is a manipulable, insecure child and will be more unhappy.
It is one of the problems faced by child psychologists in consultations. Children who receive excessive protection from their parents are more likely to feel insecure and unsuccessful and, therefore, unhappy. It is explained by the psychologist María Jesús Álava, from the Álava Reyes Psychology Center. After his long years of experience, he has detected that the problem of overprotection usually comes from a feeling of guilt of the parents who, given the impossibility of spending more time, believe that the best attitude is to anticipate their needs. But they do not realize the consequence: "If we do not let them get frustrated, we will not be developing their intelligence". He understands that the problem is that for many parents it is gratifying to give the child what he needs and when he needs it. "It's so nice to see his face when we solve a problem," some parents say in the consultation, not realizing that it is a serious mistake because the child will not learn.
Maite Vallet. Pedagogue
The consequence is better than punishment
With a simple explanation, Maite Vallet manages to demonstrate that, in the education of children, the responsibility that involves assuming the consequences is more effective than the result of the imposition of punishments.
For this expert, one of the great problems of punishments is that they vary enormously depending on our state of mind, which causes them to be confused and children do not know what to expect. However, if the parents establish cold consequences for certain actions and communicate them to the children, they will know what to expect and will understand that the results of an action depend on their own will in carrying them out.
Antonio Tobolina Fernández. Pedagogue
The thin line that separates a night of lack of control from one of fun is education
What started as a small seminar with young people to make them aware of how to make good use of alcohol and avoid certain problems in the night outings, has become for Atnonio Tobolina an exciting job in which to contribute a lot to families. Their task is to show children that they know too little about the night, that the idea that they "control" is far from reality and that there are more appropriate ways to have fun without being a weirdo.
Javier Urra. Psychologist and therapist. First Defender of the Child in Madrid
In the end we have to ask who I have lived for, not why
Urra maintains that to educate, you need, above all, a lot of common sense, and along the lines of this statement, offers five tips:
- Enjoy your children: they get older very soon.
- Do not want to be a super mom: be one with your difficulties, with your doubts about whether you have hit or not.
- Try to make your child nice: let him share, be affectionate, be tender.
- Teach her what duty is: "Let's see grandma." "I do not want to" The question is not if we want, but if we should. And we should.
- Send him a camp. With 7 years? Definitely. To watch the stars, to share the canteen, to play sports, to be in contact with nature. Make him be with other guys, play, and teach him what is respect for authority, the greatest, self-discipline and effort.
David Square. Founding partner of Viventia
In the game, there are lessons that are learned in 30 seconds and last a lifetime
The structure of a child's personality is conditioned by multiple factors: its own character (genetics), the culture where it develops (school, friends, social context) and the experiences it experiences.In these three variables mothers and fathers are present. Is not it a symptom of how important we can become? We have often downloaded in other instances (school, friends, media ...) part of that responsibility and it is time that we return to take the role that belongs to us.
Eva Bach. Teacher
The ten guidelines of a good relationship between parents, children and teachers
- The trust of parents in the teaching staff is not optional, it must be essential.
- There must be background tuning.
- Be clear about the functions of each one.
- In school, children must comply with school rules and at home those that parents put, which should go in a very similar line.
- Parents and teachers should communicate being exquisite in the background and forms.
- Value that the less brilliant teachers also know how to educate.
- Parents should hold their children responsible for the task of getting along with the teaching staff.
- Children can not hear derogatory comments from parents towards teachers.
- Be good allies of the teachers of our children and not ally with them against the teachers.
- Contribute to reestablish the social prestige of the teaching staff.
Catherine L'Ecuyer. Author Educate in amazement
Children educated in amazement are more grateful
Amazement is the desire for knowledge. Depending on whether we respect the amazement of our children, they will be more grateful children, because they will not take everything for granted; able to appreciate beauty; with greater capacity to perceive the sensitivities of others; capable of greater effort, because they will not depend on the push of others; tempered, because they will not have saturated your senses; contemplatives, because they will ponder what happens in their heart; and creative, because they will not be conformists.