7 ideas to gain the trust of the children

Friendship and the relationship of trust of parents with young children is not achieved by putting us at their level. A good father can be a good friend of his son without undermining his authority, although the vocabulary, the way of dressing or the manners we use are different. When parents pretend to be "friends" of their child, a grotesque and discrediting situation occurs for them.

Parents should avoid catching up with their children's friends, since this attitude can end with the loss of the natural respect that the young person owes them for being their parents. Let's not forget that young people do not look for a "colleague" in their parents, but a friend with experience and authority to trust.


7 ideas to gain the trust of the children

1. Take the first step. It is never too late, although it will be more difficult the longer we delay, to get the confidence of our children. Parents have to decide to take the first step.

2. Value what matters to you. Stop to think about what you know about your son, about his interests and projects, about what he values ​​above all else. It is important to be able to converse with him and carry out activities together that consolidate our trust and friendship.

3. Worry about your things. You must be able to talk with your young son or daughter about any subject and without reproach ahead. Advise him without censorship. He is willing, even if he does not say it, to care about him.


4. Respect your privacy. Do not try to get your son out of his confidences based on interrogations.

5. Make yourself known. Tell your child, from time to time, something personal about your ideas, your future projects (professional or not), your joys or sorrows, to get intimate with him. You will know him and you will have his confidence when he knows you.

6. Give yourself when you need it. Your son has to see in you someone who can always be trusted. Remember it from time to time, but above all, try to be prepared for when you really need to trust you.

7. Ask for your opinion on some serious matter. Pay attention to his advice and draw consequences from it. Then, keep him informed on how things are going, on what you applied what he said, etc. It will be a way to show you that you trust him.

Marisol Nuevo Espín


More information in the book: Father's heart, of Osvaldo Poli.
If you want to read the first chapter, press here.

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