Child tantrums

It does not fail: we take the opposite to our son or something is not to your liking and goes from being a quiet child to become a furious fierce cries between kicks. Why does he react like that, in a way that seems so disproportionate? How can we calm him down and try not to have these reactions on other occasions?

Child tantrums are a typical reaction in the first stage of development in which the child lacks sufficient maturity to act otherwise. When they are babies they react instinctively, allowing themselves to be completely guided by the adult.

However, the moment they start to grow and have their own criteria, they try to get what they want without being aware of their behavior or the means they use to achieve it, and this is how childish tantrums come about. All they want is to achieve their goal and, in addition, immediately. At this age, between 2 and 6 years old, they are still not able to stop and think about whether they want what they want, if it is the right time or if the means they are using to achieve it are correct or negatively affect other people.


Although they already have the capacity to decide what they want and begin to awaken their tastes and interests, they do not have enough maturity to understand how they can achieve it. Child tantrums are a behavior of immaturity that, if not well managed, can create a complicated and difficult character in the child.

Why do child tantrums come up?

1. Lack of maturity. The first time a tantrum arises is usually due, in addition to the lack of maturity, to the lack of resources to communicate what they want. By not getting what they want they get angry and if the adult attends to that demand, the tantrum will be repeated constantly because they will understand that this is the way to achieve things. If the temper tantrums persist over time, it is because that way of acting has served them on some occasion to get what they wanted. It is easy for the adult to have a moment of weakness, fatigue or an oversight, but the important thing is to prevent it from becoming a constant.


2. Call for attention. Tantrums can be used, too, as a wake-up call. Children demand great attention and, at times, spend special moments in those who have the greatest need. If they discover that with the tantrum they have that attention, they can use this strategy in a habitual way, sometimes because they are "addicted" to that attention and everything that is offered is little, and other times, because they are going through a complicated stage and not we are capable of realizing.

3. Capricious attitude. Behind a tantrum there is not only a bad behavior of the child and a situation of conflict between father and son, but a capricious performance or a wake-up call. In both cases we must act in a way that can extinguish the behavior and not see it as the way to achieve things.

María Campo, Director of Kimba Nursery Schools


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