Temper tantrums and tantrums, how to manage them?

If the temper tantrums and tantrums they are not well managed, better from the beginning, children will end up being capricious and spoiled, they will be children who will try to get what they want at the moment, and, in most cases, they will also behave as rude people because the way they get what What they want is not usually the most appropriate.

Children who use tantrums and tantrums to get what they want, learn and believe that everything in life can achieve this, therefore, not only react at home in that way, but also try to get things done in the school, in your group of friends ... This can lead you to have problems with social relationships and big clashes at the moment someone tell them a "no", besides impotence and frustration when realizing that not everything can be achieved.


If at home they have never been stopped and they have obtained a "no" answer they will not know that this possibility exists, but in life sooner or later, they will find it. It is better to suffer a time at home trying to manage the tantrums and stand firm before them than not see them suffer later due to problems of adaptation.

How to manage children's tantrums and tantrums

- The best way to act before a tantrum by some whim is to ignore the behavior and seeing that they have no response on our part, no reprisals, no punishments, no bad faces. They must see that it does not affect us because it does not go with us.

- If we are not able to stand firm, it is important to know how to delegate. The trick for the most extreme cases would be to make it clear that if they have ended up with theirs it was because we considered it appropriate, not because the child wanted it to be so.


- You have to understand that behind a tantrum It is not only that they achieve what they want or not, but that they learn to behave properly.

- The first time a tantrum occurs You have to explain to them that this is not the way to behave to get what they want and, of course, not to grant it. From then on, if it repeats itself again, there are many explanations because they know and are aware that they are not behaving properly.

- If the tantrums are continuous, ask yourself if it is not that you are surpassing your authority and what happens is that the child is losing his own self-esteem: everything is ordered, he does not do anything right and -for purely childish logic- the only thing left is the right to pateleo and to express themselves through tantrums.

María Campo, Director of Kimba Nursery Schools


Video: How to Deal with Tantrums - Seattle Mama Doc 101


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