Fear of the first mother: how to face them
The arrival of the first baby is a great happiness for the first-time couple, but it also brings with it a series of fears, which the mother especially lives. When a woman becomes a mother, begins a stage full of changes and work, busy. Sometimes, responsibility can overwhelm you and make you feel that you can not do everything.
All these circumstances are linked to the postpartum hormonal drop, a normal situation in women, which produces changes in the perception of their emotions, since it is a situation that they had never faced before.
Fear of the first mother
The lack of experience is resolved over time and soon, the first-time mother will see that the fears dissipate and every day she enjoys more and more of her child. But what are thosefears of a new mother?
The main fear of new mothers is that the baby suffers somehealth problem.Up to 83% of mothers consider that the main fear of first motherhood is that the baby suffers from a health problem. This is determined by the results of the survey conductedSuavinex among its community The Happy Mothers Club.
The survey, carried out on more than 1,200 mothers, shows thatThe second concern of women before their first motherhood is not being a good mother (39.9%), highlighting the concern of not knowing how to identify the needs of the baby (pain, sleep and hunger) when he cries.
Thebreastfeeding and feeding they are another concern among first-time mothers; 37.4% of the respondents fear the moment of the beginning of breastfeeding, 27% feel concerned with thebaby's weight and 25% fear that their baby will sufferinfant colic
Another difficulty for new mothers is thebath time (10%): not knowing how to hold the baby, adequately clean the navel and possible carelessness in the bathtub, cope with the top of the fears in this regard.
5 tips for first time mothers
Almost all the fears of first-time mothers can be summarized in lack of confidence and information, something understandable in the face of a new and sometimes overflowing situation such as motherhood. Therefore, the 5 tips of Suavinex are focused on the following:
1. Go to all appointments with the midwife and pediatrician They will help parents to check that everything is in order with regard to their child's health and to ask all the questions they need to answer.
2. The more reliable information parents have, the better decision criteria they will have. In this way, books specialized in baby upbringing and health as well as apps, websites, specific forums are very interesting.
3. Use the 'tribe' to ask for help: grandparents, uncles, friends and even neighbors. Asking for help in the first months is important, not only in logistical matters, but also emotional and informative, as the experience in parenting is very valuable.
4. Apply common sense and know how to relativize It is important for parents who may be somewhat overwhelmed the first days of the baby's life.
5. Remember that being a mother is a wonderful experience, although at first it is disconcerting and even hard. Maintaining positive thinking and an optimistic attitude helps to know that the first days will pass and that living motherhood is the best experience a person can enjoy.
