Grandparents, you can also say no
How true is that "every day we can learn new things." And this every day, includes all ages. I make this point because more and more often we hear about the "slave grandfather syndrome".
Psychologists and gerontologists define it as a disorder that affects the Older people who feel obliged to take care of their grandchildren. In these cases they assume a role of parents that does not correspond to them, because they had their moment to establish limits with their own children and now they should enjoy the fact of being able to grant some "whims" to the grandchildren.
Knowing how to say "no" on the part of grandparents is something more important than we imagine. On the one hand, because the grandfather / grandmother / slave grandmother's syndrome affects health, providing them with permanent tiredness, emotional hypertension or mood discomfort, according to specialists.
In addition, they leave aside activities of their age that are so beneficial for their psychic and physical health, they even lose that opportunity to spend more time together, grandfather and grandmother, who do so much good mature love.
That's why, just as we all know the importance of saying "no" to children to educate them emotionally stable, just as we try to teach our children teenagers to say "no" to themselves to take the reins of their lives and not to be puppets in the hands of others, we must also encourage the grandparents to learn to say "no".
Surely they did not have it easy either to organize their time when their children were small, but they did! Now is the time for children to learn to give up what it takes to take on the responsibility of parenting.
Yes, because the responsible parenthood it also includes wasting time organizing, investing money in kangaroos or day care centers, spending the bad drink of asking for a reduction in working hours for the care of the offspring, quitting one night or not being able to travel as much as when they had no children.
If the grandparents resolve all these ballots, the children do "a disservice" because they are not allowed to mature as parents. In addition, overcoming all these difficulties unites the couple more, because they are making the journey together, without the intervention of one or the other that generates so much conflict.
Grandparents You can also say "no", and not for that reason you will be worse people; the time has come to dedicate time to you as a couple and as individuals; to sign up for gymnastics or golf lessons; of enrolling in that university career that gives you so much excitement; going to the movies during the week and going out on Saturdays; to stay with friends, to walk, to read a book with peace, without hurry Like we say that to be a father you have to train, read, listen, learn, you also need to learn to be grandparents.
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