Ten common mistakes of parents
The education of the children is full of insecurity and not a few anxieties in the parents. Am I doing it right? Am I using the right method? Will I be too soft? Psychologists and pedagogues explain that it might reduce pressure on parents to change their expectations: instead of aspiring to do everything right, consider not doing it wrong and, above all, avoid the most harmful mistakes when it comes to educating.
Nobody is born knowing everything, not even the parents, that is why there will be many failed attempts to make the children some people rich in values.
Ten most common failures in the education of children
1. Inappropriate use of authority
There is so much talk ofthe lack of authority like in be too permissive. The educational environment does not have to be based on authoritarianism, where the children may find themselves fearful and overlapped with the father figure; nor give them an excess of liberties that makes them disobedient.
2. Inconsistency in saying and acting
Threatening an action and then not fulfilling it is one of the most common mistakes made by parents. This it makes us lose authority and that the children take advantage to break the rules easily.
3. Disparity in authority
We refer to situations where the mother issues a message and the father another, disavowing each other. The lack of criterion unity among parents It is one of the great ballasts to educate. The lack of union of educational criteria will end up hindering the educational mission of the child.
4. Freedom is missing
We must not let our children do what they want. We can allow and promote decision-making in children based on different possibilities, where they can choose between the different options and learn what is beneficial from what is not.
5. Bad punishments
Put disproportionate or non-logical punishments It is counterproductive. The best thing is to be moderate in punishment and above all, to put it into practice. For example, instead of punishing a teenager for not going out for a month, ask him to study five hours a day.
6. Affective manipulation
It occurs when it shows an interest on the part of the father to get something from his son. It can occur at any age and parents resort to various reasons and means: as gifts, money, alleging lack of company ... All to get the attention of your children.
The lack of time with the children also makes us feel guilty, and we usually resort to the purchase of video games or toys compensating the lack of affection.
7. Scarce communication
Dealing with children difficult issues, sexual, drugs, unfriendly friendships, sometimes terrifies us. But it is important to communicate at home and administering to them ourselves the information they want to know and understand before they look for it by other means that are not appropriate.
8. New technologies
Households there is an abysmal lack of limits and norms for the use of technologies. We have to keep in mind is that on the Internet you can find everything. We must be aware of the limits that we must put children with the use of new technologies and comply with them.
9. Comparison between brothers
Each child is different, however, when it comes to educating, we do not always treat them taking into account these differences. Each child requires a different education, an individualized treatment and that they dedicate a time alone to know him better and know how to treat him.
10. Overprotection
With overprotection we impede the autonomy of our children and make them more dependent on us. We parents want to prevent our son from suffering, but we have to take into account that In the worst moments we learn to overcome the inconveniences.
Noelia de Santiago Monteserín
