Independence in the adolescent
As children grow, they demand more areas of autonomy and independence, until they reach the stage of adolescence in which these desires become stronger and become manifestations of their own nature.
Adolescence is a time of physical, intellectual and emotional changes that will cause situations of difficulty. However, it is the time when people most need a figure of assertive authority, accompanied by love, listening and understanding. How far to respect the freedom of the adolescent while continuing to ensure their welfare?
Trust as a tool
The formation generates confidence; and this is the fundamental basis of the children's educational process. When it has been educated with firmness and affection from the first ages, the parents acquire this tool which allows them to trust in their children, and they in turn, in their parents.
Confidence generates the opportunity to negotiate what is negotiable, a situation that favors the paternal relationship, since children feel important and heard in decision-making. In this way, a sense of guilt develops in the unconscious of the adolescent when it fails to trust that confidence deposited by the parents. Also, trust has another ingredient: sincerity, which is built by teaching children to always tell the truth no matter how serious it may be. This attitude is the result of the trust that has been built in the children.
However, trust is not only an attitude of the parents, it is also a stimulus that the children must earn by demonstrating good behavior, obedience, respect, compliance with the norm, etc.
