We are going to live together
What if we are going to live together? This is the question that more and more couples are asking themselves of young people who have not yet married. The Premarital cohabitation is a usual proposal that young people adopt to test if they are really compatible before taking the big step towards the altar.
The fear that things can not work is what drives people to make this decision that in most cases is not usually the most appropriate. Studies show that only 20 percent of couples that they are going to live together before the marriage they get married.
Difference with marriage coexistence
Although in essence premarital and matrimonial coexistence may seem the same, There is a big difference which is appreciable in the bond that exists between the couple. When two people, husband and wife, share the same roof, there is a conception of "us" among them that leads them to always act in a unified way, including in their future projection the other person. Marriage reflects a mutual commitment that motivates couples not to leave when difficulties arise, and although the love they profess may be the same as when they were not married, there is a stronger reason to be next to the other person, which is none other than the promise to stay together forever.
Advantages and disadvantages of premarital coexistence
Among the reasons that lead the couple to take this step, we can find what could be called advantages, such as the following:
1. It allows the person to see if you feel comfortable with your partner.
2. Allows know aspects of the couple that are only known in cohabitation.
3. For many couples, they are the happiest and funniest years for not having to assume the responsibilities of marriage.
But all the advantages have their drawbacks, which are ultimately, which lead to 80 per cent of couples living together do not get to marry:
1. You can assume the loss of personal freedom and space because some couples become possessive and pretend to take the lead in the relationship so that their orders are carried out.
2. People who are going to live together come to marriage dissatisfied or without expectations of starting a new stage in their lives, which exposes them more to divorce.
3. To leave the coexistence without being married is much easier because it does not require legal procedures, which favors the break before any fight or difficulty.
Premarital cohabitation for men and for women
Once studied the pros and cons, we can analyze the reasons why they finally choose this option. Sometimes couples feel pressured by the fear of losing the other and try to close the bond more by accepting the proposal to go and live together. Other times, it is the belief that coexistence may involve an approach to the altar which leads them to take this step. But in most cases, what primarily moves to premarital cohabitation is the idea of "proof", that is to say, to experience how coexistence is, what supposes a lack of commitment by the contracting parties that is what leads in the majority of the cases to the failure of the relation.
Ana Vázquez Recio
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