The importance of good childhood self-esteem
Children's self-esteem is something that will grow according to the image that others give to children about themselves. Thus, throughout life and upon reaching adulthood, there will be people with ahigh and healthy self-esteem and others who will feel inferior because they have generated poor self-esteem.
It is in the early stages of childhood and childhood where something as simple and natural as self-esteem plays a fundamental role.
The role of parents in children's self-esteem
Children have to be told frequently that we trust them. One of the tasks of the parents with respect to the family is to take care of their children by feeding the feeling of confidence in their own capacities, highlighting their successes more than their failures.
As described by Nathaniel Branden, Canadian psychotherapist in his work Six pillars of self-esteem,"Self-esteem projects the level of pleasure a person experiences by the mere fact of being alive, in the expression of their face, in their way of speaking and in their body language". The happiness of a child will be reflected in their acts according to their degree of self-esteem, and this depends on the treatment they receive from their closest, that is, their parents.
Keys to feed the children's self-esteem
The psychologist, writer and educational psychologist Bernabé Tierno points out a series of techniques to teach children to believe in themselves:
1. The feeling of confidence in one's own abilities. It is an indispensable condition for activating self-esteem and for children to have confidence that they can do things for themselves.
2. Educate children to use effort to achieve small successes. With this, the children feel courage and courage to face more serious problems. The more successes you get, the more competent you will feel.
3. Focus attention on your achievements and efforts. Not highlighting the limitations or the failures is fundamental so that they can be convinced, before a difficult task, that they can achieve it with effort and perseverance.
4. Make them feel responsible for their actions telling them frequently: "you can achieve it and I trust you".
5. Assign tasks adapted to their abilities. Prevent children from exhausting themselves physically and mentally by teaching them to be organized and farsighted.
The effects of bullying In the kids
One of the main causes that reduces the self-esteem of children and that develops in the school environment is the phenomenon known asbullying or bullying Is aboutan aggressive behavior that causes the victim a feeling of fear and helplessness. It is materialized through insults, threats or isolating the child from the rest of the group. According to him coach educational Josep de la Torre, "children who are dedicated to annoy others have a great complex of inferiority and are frustrated by it. As they feel inferior to others, instead of growing emotionally to catch up with others, they pull others down to put them on the same level. "
There are many negative effects that these behaviors cause in children who are victims of them:
- Sad and depressed appearance.
- School failure and absence from classes.
- Difficulty getting to sleep.
- Headaches, nausea and constant crying.
For the psychologist Alicia Banderas, children who have self-esteem problems do not usually talk about themselves or speak badly, and their success is usually attributed to external factors and failure to internal values. According to Banderas, "the key is to find the balance between sincere positive reinforcers, while putting limits, they are told no and they are congratulated for their good deeds. "