The stages of love in the couple
Love, that feeling or affinity between people that has served as inspiration for so many works of art. That analgesic sensation that is able to cover any pain, to cause us so calming effects as drugs. It is the emotion that people feel par excellence, the one that creates the couple relationship.
This love, as a birth, growth or maturity process, goes through different stages of development, being able to cover shorter or longer cycles. The cycle of love until the life of a couple is consolidated is divided into the following phases.
The crush
In a first instant of contact with the other person there are a series of psychological and biochemical changes that are known as sparks or crush. Although we do not know the other person, our imagination flies and we begin to project illusions, fantasies and desires.
It is normal that when this first connection between two people emerges, is reflected in our body with some symptoms such as butterflies in the stomach, chills, nervousness and cravings for physical contact.
The act of falling in love
It is the stage where the couple begins to know each other, the first illusions and disappointments arise, but also the first projection of both as a couple, as "we". They begin to realize if this initial chemistry really exists or not. In this stage the sexual desire is usually very present between both, it is the stage of the amorous passion.
The stable couple
In this stage we have known who accompanies us, we have marked the limits and guidelines of the relationship. It is a difficult stage because it needs mutual acceptance. Sexuality is stabilizing and often decreases a little in frequency, but not necessarily in intensity.
The confirmation
Little by little we get used to living together with the other person. Sharing roles, accepting differences or solving difficulties are characteristic aspects of this stage. The couples here start arguing to see who is right in some aspects. From this stage, the person gets used to being with the other, and this is when the relationship can continue forward, end up forming a family and reach old age together or little by little it will deteriorate to end with the conclusion that it is not eternal love.
Ana Vázquez Recio
