6 tips to make children responsible
Educate in responsibility Children involve letting them make decisions, but it is essential that they are appropriate to their age and degree of emotional maturity. It is convenient to start by letting him choose between two things, the simplest, and later to accompany other more complex decisions. Responsibility is educated bearing in mind that we must be aware of the consequences of the decisions we make and children must prepare for it.
It is evident that there are some decisions that children should never adopt based on their age, degree of maturity or experience. It is one thing to encourage their responsibility and, quite another, to drop the weight of some exceedingly delicate determinations on their shoulders.
Children, five or six years old, can not and should not make resolutions about what they will eat that day, whether or not they will go to the park, or if they can watch television for hours. There are things that until we are older, we can only layer ourselves, their parents.
Tips to educate children about responsibility
1. Mark limits. So that our child can realize, before making a decision, that the consequences may be unacceptable, we must make him live within limits. If he knows that he can not watch TV for more than half an hour, he tries to make himself a loser and he must know, in addition, that we will get angry with him. Based on this, the child can decide what his attitude will be and the effects that will result from it.
2. Let him make his own mistakes. It is normal for children to make mistakes. Precisely for this reason, it is fundamental that their parents explain to them the reason for said errors, as well as the possible alternatives available in order not to fall back into them.
3. State clearly the behavior that is annoying. If you left your toys scattered we will tell you that you should not do it again without falling into generalities. Nothing of "everything you do wrong" or "you are a disaster". With a simple, "you must take responsibility for your things" will be enough.
4. Offer all the opportunities you need. To foster the responsibility of our child, we must offer him as many opportunities as possible. Based on practicing, over and over again, the child will perfect, little by little, his capacity for decision.
5. Avoid doing your things no matter how much easier, comfortable and fast. It is better to use time for a few days to teach him to dress alone, for example, to waste time dressing him for four years, for our lack of patience so that the child learns to put on his clothes.
6. Use the orders in the home, toDedicated to their age and maturity, to educate them in responsibility. Carrying cutlery or bread, picking up papers from the floor, etc., will help you acquire this habit; If you follow them, it will also be educational to check the consequences: what are we going to eat today, darling?
And finally, a very simple technique, but very effective to encourage responsibility in young children is to invite them to contribute to solve the difficulties. If we ask him often, what would he do to solve this or that problem we will be giving him the perfect opportunity to train in the ability to make decisions.
Marisol Nuevo Espín