Changes in the preteen, when the rebellion arrives earlier than expected
Adolescence is synonymous with rebellion. This stage of transition makes the children appear contrary to the designs of their parents and act in a different way. However, this process does not happen overnight. The previous years also entail a series of changes in the attitude of children, a phase known as preadolescence.
Although in adolescence it is where more attitudes of rebellion they are appreciated, in these previous years can also appear behavioral problems. How to act if these behaviors arrive ahead of time? How to guide the children and make sure that nothing bad happens to them?
What to expect
From the Nemours Foundation several tips are given on what to expect in this phase of preadolescence. A time in which the rebellion of the youngest is manifested in attitudes such as feeling ashamed if they are seen by other classmates with their parents. Little by little they reclaim their own personal space and greater privacy, so that the door of their room begins to remain closed more often.
You do not have to start taking these changes as a symptom that children no longer want their parents. Adults must begin to recognize the attitudes of an adolescent and that in these cases have advanced. Far from allowing disconnection, we must try to approach by other means. We must never forget the influence that every parent exerts on their children.
You have to preach with the example at all times and not manifest wrong behaviors. At these ages preadolescents want to feel adults and therefore copy behaviors that they understand are fun. Some examples are the consumption of alcohol or tobacco.
Attitudes to consider
As has already been said, the attitude that parents maintain at home will have a great influence on the behavior of their children. preadolescents. Here are some recommended behaviors:
- Sit at the table to eat with the family. A good formula to avoid the estrangement of preadolescent children not to lose good habits at home like sitting at the table to all members of the household.
- Share moments with the children. Although we must accept that the preadolescent child is gaining autonomy, we must not leave aside the practice of certain activities that ensure family fun. Going to the cinema, to the theater, excursions to nature, all these activities will serve to strengthen ties.
- Demonstrate affection. Far from allowing the emotional separation of the children, the parents must show themselves as a figure of closeness and that will give them affection at all times. Someone whom they will always find when they need a pillar on which to settle.
- Be interested in their tastes. The generations are changing as far as tastes are concerned, knowing what entertains the children and being interested in them is a very important point to produce the necessary closeness to the children.
Damián Montero
