Students: how to share a floor in harmony
According to a recent study of university students, Most students from Italy and Spain have not become independent of their maternal and paternal home (approximately 70 percent), and in general, they do not work either (only one third in both countries). This data is in contrast with the high index of independence, both family and economic, of Swedish students, followed by German and British students.
At this specific juncture of Spanish students, we do find many college students who choose to share a flat with other students, even in weekend or holiday period, continue living with your family, and continue to be the parents who defray the expenses caused by this type of coexistence.
How a university student lives in a flat
Most of these students start a new coexistence with people who are no longer their own family, so it goes from being an unconditional and unequal relationship, to a relationship between equals and with a different connotations to the relationship of the nuclear family. This change can often generate certain difficulties of coexistence among students, either because of ignorance of other people's habits and habits, or because of lack of acceptance or lack of respect for the other.
In the first case, it is normal that a person who has always lived with his family, where there is usually a family regulation, a lifestyle (which is embodied in family customs, routines, etc.), may collide with another way to function in life. For example, if a young person in your home has been taught to pick up the room after using it, it may create some discomfort when another person on the floor does not have the habit of leaving the cushions well-arranged or the chairs in place. site. But this type of conflict can be understood if we accept that each one is educated in a different way, and as we will see later, these differences can be solved.
On the other hand, disputes in which there is a lack of respect or acceptance are very frequent. The differences between young people are usually enriching, but there must be a minimum of education. We think that coexistence requires not only having a good time with the other person, as it can happen with a classmate, sharing a few hours of study or leisure, but it implies much more.
That is why many disputes that emerge on the student floors are because there are young people who do not have a minimum of education and good manners to live with other people, which causes unpleasant situations in the rest of the roommates. For example, a rude way of talking, dressing, behaving in general, can make cohabitation unbearable. Also the lack of respect, not taking care of the silence during study hours or filling the floor of colleagues during the exam period, can tighten the nerves of others.
Finally, many of the disagreements are settled down in questions concerning the logistics of the floor: how to organize the domestic tasks, where the spirit of collaboration can not be lacking, as well as the understanding and companionship.
Solve conflicts: foster the spirit of collaboration
This type of conflicts so common in student apartments are resolved, most of the time, with a large dose of communication, understanding, organization and, of course, sense of humor. Without communication, it is difficult to live together.
Speaking before *: There are several topics that should be discussed beforehand when you decide to go live with other people. Talk about topics such as the organization: the way of paying expenses, the distribution of tasks, the planning of the purchase, etc. will avoid many later conflicts.
Speak when any disagreement arisesIt will always be good to discuss it with the person in question, or if it affects the whole group, to share ideas, to try to solve the problem in the best possible way.
Comprehension it also plays a very important role in the coexistence of young people. Especially in the first period of coexistence, many young people must adapt to many changes at once: a university career, leave the family nest, new friends, new teachers, maybe a new city, etc. All these circumstances affect, as is logical, in their way of facing this new situation, and there will always be students who will take it better than others. The support of a companion in moments of "morriña" or "bajón" is always a great consolation, so an atmosphere of harmony and understanding on the floor will help a lot in coexistence.
In this line, the fact that you breathe a atmosphere of joy and good humor, It will also avoid many frictions.The era of youth, in itself, invites joviality, but it is clear that at this point, as in many other values, a young optimist is the result of a happy family, despite the difficulties.
And finally, the organization. As we have said, it is vital for coexistence to be more pleasant. For this is a very important point, let's see it more carefully below.
Conchita Requero
Advice: Margarita Sala Pallàs. Pedagogue and Master in Marriage
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