Happiness in the first year of marriage
Is it more happy during the first year of marriage What during any other? Studies show that, despite the widespread belief that the first year of marriage is the best, couples are much happier when they have been together much longer, for example forty years.
This is because marriage needs a period of adjustment, people need to accommodate their new situation of married, hence the first year of marriage can be considered as more unstable and vulnerable.
Causes of marriage deterioration in the first year
Researchers say that among the main causes of the deterioration of marriage during the first year, is to face the expenses of the wedding and the acquisition of a new home. This usually creates a climate of tension between couples that cause friction and crisis between them.
However, it is shown that from the second year, when couples get used to this new situation, the relationship improves.
This has shown that couples who have been married for more than forty years are much happier and more satisfied than those who are single, separated, divorced or widowed.
Tips to face the first year of marriage
- Choose the fights. It is normal that during the first weeks of coexistence begin to appear friction by silly details for not tolerating some customs of the other couple. It is very important to choose a reason to discuss and find the solution, and leave the other details that may annoy to solve them in a fun way without looking like a reproach.
- To suppose is a dangerous verb. Many times people believe that some habits that your partner has will stop occurring when they get married. To suppose is dangerous, because this causes that when seeing that these habits continue when they have already been married, the reaction is worse.
- Accept the changes. Work and responsibilities can make the pace of life change, and some things you hoped to do with your partner, such as partying every weekend, are not carried out in the end. We must try to adapt to the new situation without changing the plans become a reason for discussion.
- They do not stop being boyfriends because they are husbands. The charm of courtship should not be lost. We must try to keep the details and attention of the courtship that will always feed the relationship and remember the reason why the decision was made to join for life.
- A new family. Decisions must be made in common according to what suits them and what they want for the future. You have to take into account the opinions of third parties but without damaging the interests of the couple, and if there are disagreements, both must solve it.
Mónica de Aysa
