How can a child defend himself from a bully
What do you do if your child suffers in some way, even if it is not clearly physical? ¿How to teach him to defend himself and defend others from bullies, without "paying him with the same coin"? Take note of some ideas and tips to stop an abuse that over time can turn your child into a victim of terrible bullying.
Feeling intimidated, tormented, cornered, are aggressions suffered by many children. 75% of them say they have been treated like this. This harassment almost always depends on an imbalance of strength: physical, emotional or social. The boys pushing, hitting; the girls mocking, spreading gossip, muttering *
Express your feelings without fear
Until recently, teasing was a way to strengthen the child, to prepare him, to make him hard * but everything has a limit and consequences and this is not the best way, neither for him nor for the bully, who will become more aggressive. Those who have been intimidated, suffer predisposition to depression, low self-esteem and this all life !.
The best way to prevent children from falling victim to any kind of harassment is toTeach them to express their feelings clearly, to say "no" when they are being pressured and know how to isolate and get away from the problem when the situation is too dangerous or too unequal ... Bullies do not usually mess with children who are sure of themselves, or those who "pass" their mockery, because of the latter they end up bored.
Experts say that the damage is greater if the child is small because he can not defend himself, even tell it.
The conclusion is that the child can not solve it by itself. The position of the parents and the tutor of the school, to help prevent and correct, is essential.
How to detect if my child suffers from a partner
You can look at the following symptom:
1. It shows retracted.
2. Nervous.
3. Unsafe.
4. Lack of interest.
5. Sad. Off.
6. Moody.
7. Llorica.
8. He sticks to everything with his brothers and sometimes with a bad idea.
9. Answer wrong.
10. Can sleep bad. Wake up early.
11. Symptoms of anxiety: digestive, not able to breathe, dermatitis, stuttering *
Who are you bothering?
Bullies harass those they consider weakest. If your child is somehow different, red-haired, skinny, chubby, with glasses, very tall or very short for their age, has a certain accent, is too shy or plays with older children to protect themselves, your child may become an "unhealthy fun" for others.
What does the bully do and what does he expect from the weaker
What it does:
- Stones. Blasts
- Put motes ("Four eyes!")
- Take away what he wears.
- Pull the hair.
- Criticizing the low.
- Do not let play.
What you expect:
- To laugh at him
- Ridicule
- Make him cry
- Leave it wrong
- Leave him alone
- Reaffirm your "leadership" in front of your "entourage"
Five tips to guide the child who suffers harassment
1. Can your children say anything at home, no matter how bad? Think if you are giving him security, if you listen carefully to all his problems, if there is trust, if you can tell everything.
2. Well, give it back to you, give it a kick or a punch, take it from a few and give it a beating. "If we give this solution to our son when he tells us that they mess with him, we are giving a vengeful response. You have to listen to him and observe if the harassment is repeated frequently, to act accordingly.
3. But son, you have to be strong, it does not matter, they are children's things. "Nor can we give the feeling of unconcern For our son it is something serious, it affects him and he looks for us to tell him what he has to do, as he can do against that abuse or how to isolate the problem. Teach him to strengthen his personality and to express his opinion before the bully.
4. What do they get with you? Right now I'm going to take the child, I'm going to talk to his parents and they'll find out. "This attitude is too protectionist, it's only useful if everything has been done and the bully keeps harassing us, we should strengthen his self-esteem, encouraging him and giving him solutions for him to attack. Our children look for security in us, but it is not positive that we always "get the chestnuts out of the fire".
5. Different is looking for allies with other parents in similar situations and decide a common strategy for children to apply.
What to do to help my child if he is a victim of a bully
If things get complicated and you see that your child has not been able to leave a situation of abuse by others, you see him alone and almost without friends, it is time to react positively, interacting with others, raising their self-esteem and warning to the guardian of this situation. He is worth a lot. The moment you feel safe with a few real friends, you can more easily get out of that situation. So, propose that I invite two or three friends home, a plan, a weekend. Try to meet the parents of these new friends. Reinforce other friendships to deal with the bully.
Maite Mijancos. Director of the IEEE
